Hey, Ya’ll!! Soooo, I gave myself a challenge. A challenge that is with my phone! I challenged myself that I could put my phone down for 2 hours. Did I pass the test? Well, you’ll have to come in and find out. See ya!
There’s a saying that says, “One Bad Apple, spoils it for the Rest” and the older I’m getting, I’m finding that statement to be even the more sadder by the minute, hour and day.
The World is a Cruel place.
Now I know what you may be thinking, “Okay, whose peed in my cheerios” Well, it’s not about “Who” but “What” – While the world is cruel and evil and sometimes (okay most times) unforgiving. There are still quite a few people in it, that are cool, personable and have a way of turning any blue day into a shiny one, just by their personality alone. I happen to be one of those people…
Recently, I put a couple of things online to sell. I posted these items across the yard sale boards and I tell you, I have never, ever in my life received so many responses. I mean, I couldn’t finish answering one question before I could answer another one. It became SOOO overwhelming, I began telling people that certain items had sold – just to calm down my inbox. It was then that I understood why celebrities have designated people either checking their emails or handling their social media handles. I guess you can say that experience was my 15 min of fame as I surely thought I had become one, OVERNIGHT!!
I was successful in getting certain things sold but after a couple of failed promised deals gone bad – I decided to go down the list to other people interested. What I noticed is that although I had stated in my post that there would be “NO DELIVERIES” I had quite a few people whom opted that I meet them in a public place, a common area where a lot of people are. I did this for one person but when it came to the other person wanting me to do the same thing, I felt a little disheartened.
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They were interested in an item I had but clearly stated that their circumstances would keep them from meeting me as they don’t do anything or go anywhere, especially to someone’s house without their spouse tagging along. They went on to mention that if they did meet me without their better half, it would have to be at a police station and because their spouse would be unavailable. They asked to be passed over for the items and that I move on to the next person.
In that moment, I felt some type of way, I felt dehumanized – if that makes sense. I suddenly thought – the world is a cruel place indeed; it’s been crippled by so much FEAR.
Thinking about the response from that individual suddenly made me cry. I admit, sometimes I can be a very emotional person, depending on the situation and especially during a good chick flick; pass the tissues because this girl will be crying. I mean, that’s just me.
Now, I know my actions to that situation doesn’t make a lick of sense to you and if I can be honest, it really didn’t to me either, like “Why was I crying??” I felt sad because of ALL the negativity, scams, killings and so forth in the world, nobody can be trusted!! The first thing I thought was, “I wouldn’t hurt anyone” I remember crying one day because I’d accidently run over a dog, who came bustling out in the road from nowhere it seems.
I believe I cried too because I KNOW what type of person I am, but just because I KNOW, doesn’t mean that someone else does and you can’t be too careful these days, not even a little bit. People that speak nicely on the phone or appear nice, can easily turn out to be a terror in disguise, the only thing they need or seem to look for is an open heart to let them in and the next thing you know, your world, is turned upside-down. “Can’t people just be Good??, I mean, can we just have Good people, who want to do GOOD things and NOT bring hurt or harm to anyone? Can’t we just have GOOD PEOPLE? Are there NOT enough good people in the world??
While I was having an emotional moment of silence to myself. There was a little voice on the inside of me that said, “You Keep Being Good, no matter what, just keep being YOU!” It’s amazing how something so small can change our mindset about life and question who we really are.
I said all of that to say, Yes, while the world seems to be going to HELL in a hand-basket. There’s still some good and good people left in it. There are still organizations, companies and non-profits whom are changing the world – even if just for one person.
You can’t make people see the good in you, especially over the phone or thru a message board…lol, and please don’t try to make them. All you can do is just BE YOU. If you’re good, continue being good and don’t let anyone dull your shine, no matter how NEGATIVE the world may continue to get.
Do not be overcome by evil but overcome evil with good. Romans 12:21 (NIV)
Valentines is officially HERE! and while today may be the BIG V-Day, most people may opt to do something small today, with a bigger celebration more than likely starting tomorrow night and on through the weekend, right??
Valentine’s is the next most popular-est holiday, outside of Christmas. As soon as Christmas is over you can almost guarantee the week or two after, stores will begin to fill up with red, pink and white balloons, bears, candies and roses galore…I mean, that’s just how it rolls.
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However, while Valentines is a day that everyone (well not everyone, but you get it) uses to express their undying love and affection for a significant other – it can also be extremely COSTLY! Yes, LOVE really does cost a thing, especially on V-Day.
And that alone can be a little disheartening as everyone may not have the Benjamin’s to splurge on LOVE. Therefore, I’m going to give you 5 tips of how you can keep the cost down on the world’s most LOVE filled day.
Valentines Day is the perfect day to tell your significant other how much you love them and while words are great – ACTIONS are better. Get some nice paper, preferably construction paper. Fold it in half and cut along the fold line to make hearts, make sure you use different colors – it just makes the activity more fun and expressive.
Write nice things you love about your sweetie on each one and put them all over your living space (preferably in places you know they always go). You might want to let them know you’re doing this and tell them you’ve placed little love notes throughout the space and send them on a little hunt to find it. Or, it can be a complete surprise. You can do it while they’re sleeping, to up the ante – you can tape little pieces of chocolate on, to make the surprise even sweeter.
I know this is a bit old-fashioned, especially with the boat loads of technology we have today. Taking out time to sit down and actually write a letter shows that you not only care but it’s the sincerest affection to give. You can write a love note to anyone; your kids, your spouse, a good friend, boyfriend, girlfriend or just to let someone know how much you appreciate them. The fact that you took out time to do it, will be the greatest gift of love and adoration shown.
Plan a Date night in Your Kitchen or Dining Room
Now, I know some people may already sit down to have dinner together, but V-Day is an extra special day that causes for an extra va-voom to your dinner/meal conversation. Use your phone to create a V-Day playlist to serve as your background music. Light a couple of candles or string a couple of lights around your chandelier or alongside your wall (get those creative juices going).
During your meal, don’t talk about work or any outside disturbances. Use this time to talk about each other. What made you fall in love and etc. And if you’re flying solo, no worries plan a night with the kids (no phones, no talk about work) use that time to tell them something special about themselves and etc. Just keep the talk about LOVE. If you don’t have kids, then invite some friends over and chat it up.
You also don’t have to buy any expensive dinners, cook whatever you got in the fridge or cabinets because this moment isn’t about the food but being amongst those you LOVE.
Movies Anyone? – Favorite V-Day Classics
If you’re an avid follower, then you know I LOVE LOVE LOVE movies. What better way to settle in on V-Day or whenever you decide to celebrate it than with a good ole love classic and some popcorn. Listed below are a couple of my faves in no particular order…
- Valentine’s Day (2010) – Julia Roberts, Ashton Kutcher, Jamie Foxx
- Serendipity (2001) – John Cusack, Kate Beckinsale
- Pretty Woman (1990) – Julia Roberts, Richard Gere
- Love and Basketball (2000) – Sanaa Lathan, Omar Epps
- The Notebook (2004) – Rachel McAdams, Ryan Gosling
- Titanic (1997) – Leonardo DiCaprio, Kate Winslet
- An Officer & A Gentleman (1982) – Richard Gere, Debra Winger
- 50 First Dates (2004) – Adam Sandler, Drew Barrymore
Spa Day – INSIDE
As a people I honestly don’t think we do enough self-care routines (I’m totally preaching to the choir on this one (AMEN!). So why not create your own spa day inside. Light some candles, turn on some soft music and create a bubble bath for one or two (wink..) You don’t even have to have those high-priced soaps that do all the special things – if you got some body wash that’ll do just fine for creating the bubble effect. Get you a glass of wine (sparkling or other) and just RELAX! And follow-up with a good skin care regimen.
I know Valentine’s day may not be a big deal to some people’s world and that’s okay as it doesn’t take a holiday to show LOVE. However you choose to spend V-day, just make sure you’re showing yourself some love and/or spending time with the people you do. Time is precious and LOVE, whether a holiday or not is worth giving.
Glazed Cherry Bread
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I love it when I tap the veins in my fingers and bleed virtues into a blank paper — when the place, time, season or how I feel no longer matter.
It’s like my fingers are taking my mind on a walk to find the door that opens to the place where my Muse lives. The more I write, the better the ideas touch down on earth fired up to run the walkway and leap into the heart of my readers.
Since I had read in the bible when I was young that the fingers of God wrote and still writing. I began to cherish my notepads far more than my clothes and money!
There is one simple, yet powerful thing that I have observed in the past 15 years that’s closely attached to how successful you will be – no matter your age, background, location or skin color.
That thing is called COMMUNICATION.
Think about this… at one stage or the other in your life, you will have to:
- – write an exam
- – speak to convince a recruiter
- – negotiate with your spouse, daughter or in a business deal
- – put on a gesture to pass a piece of information or trigger others to action
- – read to learn, to solve your problems
- – listen to make different types of decisions
I have seen that if you don’t master how to write, speak, read, make gestures or listen, you will be faced with a lot of challenges in life.
This is why I have decided to take just one portion of the communication spectrum in the article, to show you how to write (and maybe say) things in ways that will get others to listen.
Don’t ever forget this: in any form of communication there is always an effective and compelling way to write that people will be hungry for more. You will hold their eyes at the jugular for massive attention.
Now, let me share with you a few examples and show you how to do that in real-time.
Let’s say you want to describe a cooked food, what you simply need to do is express the description of the food by touching it, what do you feel (what happens) to your sense organs by just the touch of that food item.
>>> Look at this:
- The aroma of the food danced around the whole building like butterflies that found sugar in a hibiscus flower. (Your organ of smell).
- The taste is 5 times sweeter than honey. All my taste buds woke up and are thirsty for more. My lips and tongue couldn’t but stand at attention. (Your organ of taste).
- The hot food chased off all the coldness on my lips. The harmattan found a path of quick escape. (Your organ of taste).
- My eyes were in movies as the flames from the food escaped into my nostrils. (Your organ of sight and smell).
- I could hear the joy among the food molecules eager to visit the drumming boys of hunger in my stomach. (Your organ for hearing).
What did you feel while reading that? Do you get the idea?
Imagine that you want to describe how a pen works, again, try to infuse how your sense organs will perceive the pen when it is in action.
>>> Look at this:
- My taste buds are always alive and thirsty for an apple, every time I open the tip cover of the pen. (Your organ of taste)
- The ink flows effortlessly on my notepads like chilled water flowing down my chest on a hot afternoon. (Your organ of touch)
- My eyes found pleasure as the words sparkle on the book leaflets. (Your organ of sight)
- The gentle feel of the pen between my fingers reminds me of the succulent touch of a newborn baby. (Your organ of touch)
- Hop, step, jump – the pen listens to me, it follows my hand as it moves through the canvas of the table. (Your organ for hearing)
Yeah, that’s it! Do you get the flow?
What you have tried to do above is to describe things that are inanimate, as if they are alive, have legs, and breathe like a human being.
One of the reasons why we will read that and enjoy it is because we are human beings, and we love to see things that sound like us.
That’s why we love people that see the movies we like, we join networks of people that are in the same professions as ours, and we become a fan of a football club because it is our best friend’s club of choice.
So, when you write, speak, or anything that has to do with communicating, one of the things you need to watch out for are the ways to dance to the tune of what people love to hear, by serving their emotions with the finest rows of words and sentences.
This doesn’t mean you need to be all flowery or have to overthink this process to master the art.
Start small, and build on it gradually.
For now, look over the two exercises above, and begin to change out a few words, connecting it with the appropriate simile (use of this, is ‘like’ that) and metaphor (this is that).
Damilola Fasoranti writes in his dreams and helps fearful entrepreneurs to finally launch their awesome dreams. He is a Tedx Speaker, a professional educator and the Chief Listener at Prikkle Academy (in Nigeria) where he provokes young people to turn their skills, gifts and knowledge into social solutions.