What would you do if you had a friend to tell you a secret, the secret however wasn’t something to be shared and laugh about later, it’s a secret that will ultimately change their life and YOURS. That’s exactly what happens in this movie review.
Do you know what a generational curse is?
You, like myself I’m sure have either heard the word before or if you’ve done research on your own family history, I’m sure you’ve actually “seen” it in action. While I couldn’t find the word “generational curse” in the dictionary as I figured I wouldn’t. I have my own definition of what this word truly means and that’s this:
A generational curse is an era, period, range, class or lifetime of something being carried down from one generation to another generation.
In other words, if your family has always been known to be alcoholics, maybe that started with your great, great, great, great grandpa or grandma and now, you’ve noticed that everyone in your family can’t seem to “break the spirit of alcoholism.” A generational curse is something your family has always done, what your family is consistently known to do and unfortunately what even your kids will continue to do unless someone stands up and says “enough is enough!”
Believe it or not, while alcoholism is just an example of what some families may struggle with, for others it could be infidelity, lying, cheating, gambling or even prison. Which was the case for author Mark Baynard.
Oftentimes I’ve heard about generational curses and wondered what in the heck was it and why were people so interested in discussing the topic. Needless to say, I got my first glimpse of what a generational curse was through T.D. Jakes who once preached a sermon entitled “The Spellbreaker.”
Within that series I got an understanding of what a generational curse was all about, In this series, he began to talk about marriage and looking into the lineage of your spouse, what their like and overall what their family history details, because all those things would end up being passed down to your children. DNA is something else however when it comes to generational curses, it’s something that very few people really do research about to find the real reason why we act and/or do or think the way we do. These actions all stem from the root of someone or something. I believe in order to successfully break a generational curse over your life, you seriously have to do some research on your family history and that is exactly what Mark Baynard did. While a journey of this nature isn’t easy, Mark Baynard shows in his book ‘100 years: A journey to end a vicious cycle’ that it’s totally CAPABLE!
You see, Mark’s family had a generational curse attached to them as well and that was the Prison system. Unfortunately, due to quite a few bad choices, Mark found himself adding to that generational curse lineage, but one thought was about to change it all. Mark Baynard had an epiphany after leaving his probation officer one day. According to Mark, it was something about that visit that made him think about his life-choices as well as his future. A successful future that many of his male family members weren’t experiencing because they were behind bars.
Birth is when our opportunities to value “life” begin, but we have until our lives stop to make and maintain positive changes.”Mark Baynard – Author “100 Years: A Journey to End A Vicious Cycle”
Mark didn’t know why all of a sudden he became so hungry to know why the male members of this family kept failing; but he had an insatiable urge to find out and what he found out, was like a lightbulb that turned on brighter than it ever had before. This newfound discovery became the changing point in Mark Baynard’s life.
Mark came from a good family, he met his real mother at the age of 5 and began living with her and his other siblings. Mark had lived with his dad and step-mother for quite some time so while this was an adjustment, his mom and dad were very good role models and raised him well, along with his grandmother whom Mark attributes much of his wisdom lessons from.
So, one might say – Well, if family life was so great then what really happened? How can someone from a good family still end up in prison? And Mark has an answer for that, its called “The Crossroads of Life” – A former pastor of mine used to say “The choices you make will determine the life you choose” and unfortunately for Mark as well as the men in his family, these “choices” ultimately landed them all behind bars. The discovery Mark came to realize is that when he wrote down each of his family members that had been to prison, including himself and those currently serving time behind bars – it totaled to ONE HUNDRED YEARS!
While this devasted Mark to his core, he knew that as Sam Cooke once song so beautifully “A Change Is Gonna Come” and that change he determined was going to be through HIMSELF FIRST! and for future generations to come.
“The problem lies not in standing at these crossroads, but in each individual’s response”Mark Baynard, Author “100 Years: A Journey to End A Vicious Cycle”
This book was so good, I found myself relating to Mark’s story in wanting to be a change agent in regards to my own family history. This includes putting a big stop sign on behavioral choices, old patterns and approaching things differently let’s say than my grandmother, her mother or even my own mother had done for the sake of my own two children.
In Mark’s book, he’ll take you on his very personal journey of ups and downs in his fight to close the gap to the “generational behavioral mindset” his family had come so used too. Mark’s journey to improve himself as well as make a difference in his community is met with lots of heartache and pain but shows Mark’s determination to break barriers and make the necessary changes his family desperately needed.
This book will have you crying, guessing and cheering all at the same time. I honestly couldn’t put it down and you won’t either! Now you know how I do, I can’t give you ALL the details of the book as I want you to read it for yourself. This would be a great book club read and the perfect Christmas gift for yourself, a family member or a friend. “100 Years: A Journey to End A Vicious Cycle” will motivate you to finally put an end to whatever generational family cycle you’re in and show you how to live your best life despite the odds set up against you.
Your past will never dictate your future unless you want it too, your future TRULY CAN change for the better and Mark Baynard is a true; living, breathing, inspirational testimony of that!
You can get both of Mark’s books “100 Years: A Journey to End A Vicious Cycle and 100 Years Part II: Truth Be Told” on >>>>>> Amazon!
You can follow Mark Baynard on his Amazon Author’s Page >>>>> HERE
Featured Image: Rita Chowdhry – Created by Roshonda – B Creative
Disclosure: This book was gifted to me by Rita Chowdhry’s publishing company in exchange for my honest review. All views concerning this book are 100% my own and not of anyone else’s.
In order to gain success, you first have to get SAVVI!
This is a term that acronym that author, entrepreneur and award-winning coach and trainer Rita Chowdhry discovered she needed in her own life if she indeed wanted to experience exponential growth in her life and business. The acronym SAAVI is also what she coaches her own clients to adopt in their lives as well.
So what does SAAVI mean?… SAVVI MEANS
S-Self Awareness (exploit your strengths and overcome your weaknesses)
A-Achiever’s Mindset (developing the right mindset to achieve your life and work goals)
V-Values & Beliefs (understand your values and belief systems and how they ultimately influence your performance)
V-Verbal Communication (learn how to adapt your communication for successful outcomes)
I-Inspire & Motivate (know-how and where to get yourself and others motivated and inspired)
Chowdhry learned the principals of being SAAVI 30,000 feet in the air on a plane ride to India to tend to a tragic family matter. That plane ride changed the trajectory of her life and while Chowdhry was in a state of misery getting on the plane, getting off the plane she was in victory, victory over the pains of her life that she’d constantly been indwelled in. It was a new day and it started by her changing her mindset regarding her personal world and the world of her clients.
In her book ‘Get SAAVI’ – Chowdhry speaks of the many fears and emotional barriers within her own life that kept her stagnant and unfulfilled successfully, she shares stories of her upbringing in Northern India, the community and her strong father who was a leader and trailblazer in his own right and how his ethics helped her to become a strong woman in her young early life. However, after her father died tragically in a taxi accident, Chowdhry’s life wasn’t the same. Dealing with her father’s death and her mother’s emotional downfall of losing a husband. Chowdhry became a worrier and unsure of herself as well as her future.
After her father’s death, Chowdhry and her family had to turn all their independence on their community to dictate and make decisions for her mom, herself and siblings. A lifestyle that Chowdry adapted too. Being, 30,000 feet high Chowdhry had, had enough and decided that she needed to do something different. This time she was going to take life into her own hands and steer it the way she wanted it to go.
While SAVVI had now become Chowdry’s newfound life. Her book details the story of a real family that she’s helped to adopt the SAAVI principal. A family composed of a wife, husband, and son that looked good on the outside in front of people but who were detached and suffering miserably behind closed doors. Chowdhry began helping the wife and everything changed.
I really loved this book because I wouldn’t have thought of it as adopting a specific principal entitled “SAAVI” but I do believe and am a FIRM believer of putting expiration dates on our past. For quite some time, just life Chowdhry (different circumstances) I too allowed the voices of others to dictate my life and keep me in a box. I was always afraid of speaking up, it didn’t matter how small or big the situation was, I couldn’t do it and therefore succumbed to other people doing it for me, which negatively impacted the outlook I had on myself.
I allowed people to run over me and I also allowed the issues of my childhood to dictate how my future would be, which lead me down a wrong path of unfulfilled relationships in which I allowed myself to stay in WAYYYY to long. The SAAVI principal is not just for “past” relationships but you can also use these principals going forward into your future.
Ultimately we are the “enemies” of our own life, which means the choices we make or choose to hold on too, determine our outcome whether we move forward, stay stagnant or continue to be the little 5yr old boy or girl whose now 30 yrs old and still reeling over the fact that your dad walked out on you and that’s the reason why you’re making the bad choices you are in life. NOOOOOOOO, yes those things affect us. It affected me when my dad walked out and was never apart of my life and I used that excuse for years to continue in a behavior that wasn’t great for me. But like Rita I had to decide differently and say, Enough is Enough! How am I going to change this situation around for the better?
You Can Only Play the Victim but For So Long! – Roshonda N. BlackmonTweet
If you want to be SAAVI and/or learn the principals that Rita Chowdhry has detailed in her book (because I just scratched the surface =) then you’d really want to get a copy! Rita’s story of tragedy to triumph is a REAL inspiration and the outcome of the family is truly amazing.
Get SAAVI, Get Successful & Get Moving into 2020 with a SAVVI NEW YOU!
Rita Chowdhry’s book ‘Get SAVVI’ is available right now for sale on Amazon!
Get SAAVI, Get Successful! – Rita Chowdhry, Author of ‘Get SAAVI’Tweet
Did you miss the book and lollipop giveaway? Well, unfortunately, it’s over now and we have a winner ya’ll! but before I announce who the winner is, let’s take a little trip backward to make a BIG, HUGE LEAP FORWARD….into the Winner’s Lane. You know I can’t JUST announce and move on…hehe
I gotta start where it all began…
Early in October, I was gifted to read another one of Jacqueline Pirtle’s books. I was elated to read the first one – ‘365 Days of Happiness’ and now she has a new book out entitled “Parenting Through The Eyes of Lollipops” – which was just as much an exciting read as her first one. I did a book review for both, in which you can read and catch up below…
- Book Review: First Came Happiness, Then Comes Lollipops! Jacqueline Pirtle’s New Book Offers Up, Parenting Skills Using A Tasty Treat!
- Book Review: Jacqueline Pirtle says Getting to Happiness in 365 days, Is Literally a Piece of Cake!
I thought I’d up the anty a little do a giveaway with Jacqueline’s second book, so I spoke with her about it and she was ALL IN! She’s such a delight =) So, fast-forward, I did a post announcing the giveaway and the rules to enter, here you go below if you missed it!
And now we’re at the end of the journey, someone went for the challenge and struck GOLD! and what Purr-fect day to announce the winner than on Halloween…..except this one is all treat and no tricks!!
So without further ado, the winner of Jacqueline Pirtle’s new book ‘Parenting Through the Eyes of Lollipops’ IS…..DRUMROLL……
Althea will not only be receiving Jacqueline’s new book but as an added bonus, Jacqueline will be sending her a bag of lollipops to go with it! Congratulations Althea! – Althea Jones is also a blogger, woo-hoo!! You can visit her lovely blog – Momof3Kings. While there, catch up on one of her posts and leave her a comment, as well as a congratulation!!
I want to give a HUGE, HUMBLING shout-out to author Jacqueline Pirtle for her willingness to do this amazing giveaway! Say, are you sad? Don’t let Sadness get you down.
You can still get Jacqueline’s book for yourself or a friend. It’ll also make a great stocking stuffer this holiday for every parent and parent-to-be! Grab one, two or three copies today! & While you’re there – you can pick up her other book ‘365 Days of Happiness‘ as well. It’s likely to get you on a good path to happiness starting in 2020!
Jacqueline Pirtle’s latest book ‘Parenting Through the Eyes of Lollipops’ was released in September 2019 and is available right now for sale on Amazon!
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So, you might be wondering. Where in the heck is this coming from? Well, I’m the type of writer that when things interest me, move me or make me think – I have to write about it. I mean, it’s just how I’m wired up I guess.
This topic came about when I went to my sister’s house last weekend and while she was out, I and my brother-in-law talked it up and in doing so, he mentioned that he got a prostate screening. Huh?, I said – in my mind, I was like, isn’t that for 50 yr olds? My brother-in-law literally just turned 40 this year. I wondered what made him get such a test and why now? I was a little confused…
It was then that he went on to elaborate that a friend of his sent him the information. Seemingly, they were having free prostate exam screenings. His friend went and got tested and was just passing along the information to all the men he knew to get tested as well. My brother-in-law was hesitant but it was free, so he thought he’d go.
Of course, my brother-in-law was a little nervous and scared as he didn’t know what to expect and I’m sure at that point, he had no clue as to what he’d gotten himself into. Once the wait was over and he got into the doctor’s office, he was asked a few more questions and then, was asked to take off his pants from the waist down, turn around on the bed, standing up straight, he was asked to lean over on the bed with his elbows lifted. The doctor proceeded to give him some tissue in which at this time, my brother-in-law was thinking the doctor was being considerate to the sniffling he was doing prior to the exam, Oh that was NICEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE, my brother-in-law couldn’t get out the next words because before he knew it, he was being probed with a finger up his butt or gluteus maximus for my fancy folks…lol.
Less than 5 min, it was over. My brother-in-law not fathom what had just happened felt weird, icky and just wanted to run to the nearest shower he possibly could. And, no – the tissue wasn’t for the sniffles but so he could “clean up” afterward.
Now I know that whole story was a little uncomfortable for most to sit and read. However, it sparked me to write so I can inform our men, brothers, nephews, cousins, fathers and husbands of the uneasy but yet informal things we should all know about. They say men have to be at least 50 yrs old before a prostate exam, just like they say women have to be 40 yrs old to get a mammogram. Those statistics are a little off as our diets, family heredity, environmental hazards and etc have put men and women as well at risk for such diseases at increasingly younger ages than expected.
Men, in general, are the HARDEST people on earth to drag to the doctor. I don’t know what it is, but they just won’t go. I think it’s the perception of “If I don’t go, I won’t know” and that’s great with them. I also think they believe that if they go, the doc may find something that they just don’t want to face. I truly understand that, believe me. However, stage 4 of something can most times be incurable as opposed to early detection and stage 1, which can increase the odds of living and beating a disease.
So, what is the Prostate?
The prostate is a walnut-sized gland located between the bladder and the penis. The prostate is just in front of the rectum. The urethra runs through the center of the prostate, from the bladder to the penis, letting urine flow out of the body. The prostate can get larger with age, primarily in men over age 50.
The Effects of the Prostate?
The prostate is responsible for producing prostatic fluid, which is full of enzymes, proteins, and minerals that are vital for the proper functioning of sperm.
Why Men Need to get checked for this important screening?
Men have to get tested in order to decrease their chances of getting prostate cancer. Prostate cancer is the most common cancer in regards to men. The good news is that prostate cancer if detected grows increasingly slow that is as long as it’s attached to the prostate gland. Most prostate cancers do grow slowly, however, some are very aggressive and can spread like a wildfire if untreated. And how will you know this? Early detection of course! For what the symptoms are, you can visit The Mayo Clinic
Things to do and eat to keep that Prostate Healthy?
Exercise! Of course, physical activity is always best in any case, however continuous cycling is not a recommendation and if you are going too, then WebMD suggests a “prostate-friendly saddle” to keep your most important part, out of harm’s way.
So, what should your diet consist of? Well, Health Central suggests the following:
- Tomatoes, Broccoli
- Legumes (beans, lentils), Fish
- Sesame Seeds, Bell Peppers
- Avocados, Beans, Garlic
Of course, a healthy diet is “key” to any health risk decrease. If you add more of the items listed to your everyday meals, then you’ll be on your way to not only having a healthy prostate but overall health in general.
Become knowledgeable about certain risks and take advantage of your health care benefits by visiting a doctor once a year for a full physical. What’s not that important to you now, could be detrimental to you later.
Early detection is the best detection! Your future body will thank you later.
Oh, and P.S. My brother-in-laws test came back negative! To God be the glory for that!
Check with your local hospital or doctor’s office to find out if they know of free screenings in your area or if you have a regular doctor, let them know your questions and/or concerns in regards to your prostate health!
Featured Image Credit: Roshonda – B Creative
So, this post will be very short – don’t blink or you’ll miss it!!
Last week I did a book review for Jacqueline Pirtle‘s new book ‘Parenting Through the Eyes of Lollipops’ – Did you read it? Well, if not you might want too!
As the title states, I’m having a GIVEAWAY!! or I guess I should say Jacqueline, the author of ‘Parenting Through the Eyes of Lollipops’ is giving away a signed copy of her new book, the book that just came out last month, a book that is flying off the shelves, just as her first book ‘365 Days of Happiness’ did!
And guess what, you get to have your very own copy! Andddd, to make this deal even sweeter, Jacqueline is going to not only mail you the book but you’re going to get a bag of lollipops to go with it, HOW. COOL. IS. THAT!! (Those dots are me clapping, lol)
Too cool, right?? So, if you want a copy – this is what you have to do! You know there are rules and stipulations…he hehe…
Okay, here are the rules. First things first…
- You MUST like and leave a comment on last week’s post >>> Here You Go!!
- Follow Jacqueline on IG >> Here You Go!! and/or FB >> Here You Go!!
- Leave a comment under this >> > post – after your comment use the hashtag #lollipoplollipop @justsuminspiration2u
And THAT’S IT!! Easy Right?? – You must follow all the steps in order to win! If you follow Jacqueline on FB, please put #lollipoplollipop @roshondabcreates after your comment. I think FB will alert me to my name being used.
There will be “one” winner and names will be picked at random. The deadline to do this is October 22nd by noon!
Remember you have to use the hashtag #lollipoplollipop and @justsuminspiration2u for IG or @roshondabcreates for FB, in order for me to know you did it!
Oh and P.S. This giveaway is open to U.S. residents only, due to mailing procedures but hey, even if you’re not in the states, still show Jacqueline some love!
I can’t wait to pick a winner! – Will it be YOU???
Talk Soon! & Good Luck!!