Guest Post: Having it all – An Inspirational Journey to Becoming a Superwoman by Ritu Sethi

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Every decision we make leads us down a different path – it is up to you to decide which one. 

You may not be able to change your circumstances, but you can enact change within yourself if you are willing to accept personal responsibility and guidance.

Ritu Sethi – Author “Having it all – An Inspirational Journey to Becoming A Superwoman”

There is an age-old question that plagues so many young women today and it is not a new one. It is one that has been around for decades; ever since women in the workplace became a common sight. However, as increasing demands continue to beg on everyone’s time, this ever-evolving question proceeds to grow.

The question began from whether there was really such a notion as a happy work-life balance for women. This meant addressing the conversation that women often had to choose between their personal responsibilities vs going to work and being the financial provider for their family. 

In this current society, the spectrum of technological advancements accessible to us at our fingertips has meant that women are finding it increasingly hard to merely switch between each area of life unscathed. On top of this, Social Media apps do a great job of constantly reminding us of this presented requirement to have an enviable social life going spare to feel accepted, or to download the newest fitness apps as a pre-requisite for reaching a peak state of health, digital banking apps that must be mandatory if you want for a healthy bank account, or meditation as a spiritual reminder to encourage time out, self-care, and mental health awareness. Not to mention searching for added space and time dedicated to intimate relationships and family time too. No wonder so many women are exhausted all the time!

As a Lawyer, Entrepreneur, Mother, and Wife, I share my strategy for ‘having it all’. It is based on the idea of compartmentalizing all areas of your life into eight accessible sectors and understanding how to balance all these areas. My suggestions are a guide to self-improvement and I want the experience to be a personal journey for you and to encompass all there is in life, as a working woman.

‘Having It All Now’: An Inspirational Journey to Becoming Superwoman’ is my own interpretation of advisory and solution-orientated guidance for women. 

You will feel empowered and equipped  to take charge of each area of your life, including:

1} Self-development. Are you truly happy in yourself or should you step away for a moment and re-evaluate life objectively, just for you.

2} Finance and wealth. How much money do you need to reach financial security and increased financial freedom? How will you do this? One small saving every day (even skipping each morning’s coffee on the way to work) will help you save.

3} Have you experienced the power of intimacy and love? The passion that comes when you least expect it, one that consumes your senses? If you need a bit of guidance here, this book explores the reasons why you are good enough, the uniqueness and qualities within yourself and how to best bring them out and how to be seen. 

4} Stuck in your career? After all, how do you break through an invisible glass ceiling within your professional life? You have the ability to make a conscious decision to break with the imaginary boundaries that are products of years of false conditioning and then the rewards are yours to be had.  We guide you on how to exude the confidence to make it to the next promotion and reap those rewards.

5} You are your own definition of health and beauty.  There cannot be just one definition of beauty in a world so vast and different, but we do know that there is a plan to enjoying total peak health. That one does not just happen on its own.

6} Love is all that a child really wants from their parents, so take 5 minutes to hug them every day, to feel the heartbeat of your child puts the world back into perspective. That support and nurturing is also a steadfast way to encourage them to embrace the world. Remember, there is no such thing as a perfect parent, so why strive to be one?

7} Your social life can only be a reflection of the choices you make, on how you choose to spend your free time, and your ability to be a good friend. We explore how you can surround yourself with like-minded friends who will boost you in your search for balance and happiness.

8} Lastly, spirituality and creativity are your subjective choice, and once you have read through how to dispel many of the demons you may now face, there will be one important light and eye-opener that will be your guide. 

The results you will get is an insight into NOT putting off the  ‘luxuries’ that life has to offer you for another day, and instead to make today the day to stop and reflect on your life balance and Life choices resting in the realization that you can make the subtle changes you need so you too will begin the journey to ‘having it all now’. 

About the author

Ritu Sethi is the Founder and Senior Partner of The Sethi Partnership Solicitors, recently winning the Lifetime Achievement Award in Law 2019. She is also a public speaker, and her book ‘A Woman’s Guide to Having it All now’ was voted ‘Best Inspirational Book’ by IBBF. For further information and to order your copy; visit www.ritusethi.com   Or www.sethi.co.uk 

#Sunday’s Thought: Are You Making the “Right” Investments?

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This earth is like a marketplace; you will buy your necessities and eventually go to your home where you’ll put those things to good use, weather now or later. While that analogy is true for this earthly place, it’s a much different story when it comes to the spiritual realm.  This earth is not our permanent home, we’re only here for a short while and soon, we’ll all come face to face with the month, date and year after the short “dash” after our birth-date and that’s our demise date.

Okay, so before you give this post the “OH NO LOOK” just hear me out….

On March 31st the rap world lost a visionary, an icon of sorts, a family man and community activist by the name of Ermias Asghedom a.k.a Nipsey Hussell. I have to admit, I didn’t know him or even heard of him prior to his demise, the only person I knew that was close to him was his longtime girlfriend Lauren London, I had seen her in quite a few movies. From the video’s that I watched of him, past interviews, the couples question game he played with the love of his life and music video’s all the way down to the changes he had and was making in his community made me realize that this guy was well loved, cherished and had a big heart. Like many of us, he learned to turn a negative past into a positive future for everyone around him. He wanted to change the world by making it a better place. Nipsey was just 33 when he passed away.

Photo Credit: Bing/Nipsey Hussell

I found myself wanting to play God in this scenario and think of ways if I was God, how I would have done it differently, “Silly girl, what was I thinking!” I just hate to hear about young people dying in which shameless and admittedly I TRY to play God often in those scenarios (don’t judge me please). But I felt increasingly horrible with Nipsey for some reason as I was looking at how greatly loved he was and I found myself wishing his demise had played out differently but the bible says “Warning before destruction and a haughty spirit before a fall” – before everyone leaves this earth, there always comes warning first.

If we don’t have a relationship with God or if that relationship is on again/off again, it may be very difficult to hear his warning or even see it but God doesn’t allow things to just happen to people without proper notice and that goes for everyone, including me! So, you may be saying – what does your title and Nipsey have to do with one another and it’s simple “We can’t get caught up in the things we do here on earth, but we must work on storing up investments beyond this earth” that’s when I took off my God hat and began to pray and wonder – Did Nipsey store up the right investments?


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On earth we all want to invest in something – these investments, if good – could make us very wealthy and if not, make us very poor. Most of us live on earth as if we’re never going to die, as if we’re going to live forever and we become comfortable in making this dirty place our permanent home. Thing is, people are dying younger and younger every day, most of the time without warning. When a rich man and a poor man die – it’s the first time for once that they’re in the exact same boat. Both must stand before the Lord naked and without nothing, at this point – the fame they had or didn’t have on earth is meaningless.

Psalms 49:10-14 NIV (study lesson states)

The only riches we have at the time are those we have already invested in our eternal heritage. At the time of death, each of us will wish we had invested less on earth, where we must leave it and more in heaven where we will retain if forever. To have treasure in heaven, we must place our faith in God, pledge ourselves to obey him and utilize our resources for the good of his kingdom.

It’s not that God wants us to live poor lives, oh no….he wants us to live full, healthy and prosperous lives (3 John 1:2). His desire is that we not get caught up in material things and people (1 John 2:15). We’re not perfect but we strive every day to live and be perfect even as our father in heaven is perfect. Jesus walking the earth in the flesh was the “perfect” and best exemplified example of how we should live, act, walk and speak. It’s not easy, it’s really not. As a matter of fact, it’s hard to try and live right with soooo much temptation around, I get it – trust me but as Apostle Deanna Dixon states “Every day we have to Fight” we have to fight to live right, we have to fight to keep from cursing somebody out, we have to fight to stay in our lane and quit veering over into someone else’s lane, we have to fight to keep our sanity, we have to fight to make sure we’re making the right investments (Deuteronomy 10:12).


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I pray every day that God keep me, because this sister right here – HONTAY!! My flesh can get stirred up REALLLLLL bad. I have to ask God to keep my mind on him and off of sex, OH YES!! – I didn’t say I was holier than thou! I have to ask God to keep my mind from wanting to be popular and noticed, YES! I have to ask God to keep me from going backwards into toxic relationships all because I want someone in my bed at night, I have to ask God to keep my mind and a smile on my face when I shake hands or talk to people that I KNOW DON’T LIKE OR DESPISE ME!!, I have to constantly ask for prayer to keep my attitude in check because I want to pop off….IT’S A FIGHT YA’LL! But to see Jesus one day and for him to tell me those 7 words I’m dying to hear:

“Well done my Good and Faithful Servant”

Now hearing those words would be worth it all!! I don’t know what your God affiliation is and I AM NOT trying to convert you either! but I want you to think about it. One day this earth will pass away and we will too. This earth is just a market place for goods now, nothing to be compared to the real goods we’ll have on the other side if we invest correctly.

Are you making the right investments?
Heaven & Earth will Pass away but my words WILL NEVER pass away (Matthew 24:35 NIV)

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Sunday’s Thought: When You Give More, Receive Less & Pout About It!

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Did I tell you that last week I woke up in the middle of the night, crying my eyeballs out! I was so emotional and for some reason or another, that week just seemed to be a rollercoaster ride of them all because I was feeling some type a way about something that I honestly couldn’t control – ever been there??

Going to work the following day, no one would’ve even guessed or imagined that I had that bout of sadness, I guess it’s because I’m so used to trying to be the smile or the light for others to see – but what happens when I need a smile or a light and no one’s there to give it back to me – What happens when I, HOLD UP – let me capitalize it “EXPECT” people to do things for me because I loyal in doing something for them; is it wrong for me to expect that same loyalty back in return? What happens when I don’t get it?

Have u ever went above and beyond to do good for someone, but found yourself not getting that same dedication back in return?

Let me just say, I’ve been there more times than I’d like to admit and I found myself literally having a pity party over it – I wanted people to put the same heart, time and effort into doing for me, as I did for them. However; my hopes, dreams, and fantasies of wanting this to be so, was NOT so!

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There’s a scripture in the bible that says “”Do to others whatever you would like them to do to you.”  Matthew 7:12 (NLT). I can’t tell you how long I’ve misunderstood this verse, because in my mind – I was doing for others with the anticipation that they would and should ((let me be transparent and honest here)) do to ME! I mean, look at what I was doing or had done for them.

But, God gave me a revelation of that scripture in my “pouty” breakdown that night and it goes like this: Do for others, the way you yourself would like to be treated and handled; be the light! That’s how you must conduct your business when it comes to someone else, does that make sense? It’s not about what people can do for you in return because of what you did for them; it’s more about “how” you would like to overall see people treated because in doing so, we’re actually displaying Gods love in which was a FREE for all who wanted it.

I mean, look at it this way…..

Jesus had 12 disciples who were supposed to have his back, right? Just because they were walking with someone who was perfect, didn’t mean that they were. They all let Jesus down “BIG” time!! Peter loved him and denied him, so much so he went into a cursing fit. Judas betrayed him and felt bad later, so much so – he hung himself. Matthew was a cheater and no telling what hurts, habits and hang-ups the others had (you know everything wasn’t written in scripture) and you know the saddest thing of it all??- when Jesus needed them the most they slept on him.  Here he was in the garden of Gethsemane balling his eyes out and sweating up a storm because he knew he was about to die. I can only imagine the pain he must’ve been feeling at that time – the agony, the factor of just wanting someone to comfort him and no one was available, even after all the things he had done, the people he had helped and the miracles he had performed; in the end when he needed someone the most, no one was there but his heavenly father.

Does this remind you of some of the people you deal with today? Friends, Family, co-workers, acquaintances and so forth. So you might ask, well what does all of this mean? It means that everyone’s NOT going to be there for us or have our backs – if Jesus experienced it and got over it, so can WE!

My mother used to say “It’s not what they do to you – It’s what you do to THEM! – Greater is he that’s within us than he that’s within the world. 1 John 4:4. I don’t know if you’ve experienced any of this before but I just want you to know that even in my dreadful moments; God was there and he dried my tears away. I know it’s hard sometimes to think on the “positive” side when you’re feeling down – but when God brought to my mind what he had been through, with his own friends. It made me realize that I wasn’t alone.

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I reached out to my friend and she shared a powerful message with me – Read it and use it to step over the pouting and crying hurdles in your life – Use it to help move you ahead and continue treating people the way “God” intends for us to treat them, no matter what and that’s with great, deep-seated, unjudging (((( LOVE )))) 

My Friend Shanae’s text message is below but first (a little backstory as to why I texted her) The pouty night I had was a result over the concerns I had with my new faith-based book “Billy Wolf and the Kids of Heavenly Hills Elementary” and how people weren’t responding as I thought they should’ve, people (a.k.a friends) that I thought would have my back and buy the book, didn’t. I also had concerns about the people that purchased the book, people whom I asked to leave a positive review after reading it but they didn’t leave a review at all, even to this day. Afterwhile, my emotions took over and I began to think that maybe I wrote a horrible book that people really hated but was too afraid to tell me!!!

Suddenly, the feel-good emotion I had with writing it became feelings of insecurity and regret, I began to doubt myself and wanted to pull the book from the shelf. So, I texted Shanae and asked: “Sis tell me the truth, Is my book bad??”  and this is what she wrote back: 

“Yes, I understand how frustrating that is. Especially when you think people are going to support in a certain way. I’ve learned that many people will get the book but never read it. Buying it is their way of supporting. And yes, its super difficult to get people to actually read it because that requires them to slow down and focus on something other than their own stuff. Don’t stress yourself out over the reviews or getting people to read it. God has blessed you with this work and those that are called to read and review will do it without the hassle. Try not to harbor any animosity toward them and stop asking. Forgive them if they never do it and move forward with your promo etc. Your book is great and those that read it will be blessed greatly.”

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No matter what gift or dream you have. Don’t give up on it – Sometimes you’ll hear crickets before you hear an applause. Keep doing what you’re doing – IT REALLY IS GOOD! Take it from ME! – â¤ï¸

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EnSpired: Movie, The Miracle Season Teaches Us To “LIVE LIKE LINE”

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This past weekend I had the privilege of watching a movie entitled “The Miracle Season” this movie was inspired and about Caroline “Line” Found, a 17yr old West High School Trojans Volleyball player from Iowa, City. Line was the teams “setter” a.k.a captain. Caroline was the teams most valuable, popular, loved and an inspirational player who lead her volleyball mates to win two state championships in a row.

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EnSpired: Shanae Artis Exposes Fear & Crushes Adversity In New Book “This is NOT my Life – 10 Steps To Overcoming Fear and Adversity”

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In life, most of us have suffered through many traumatic instances, such as the absence of a mother or father being absent during childhood and as you grew older, that anxiety has now turned into fear of others leaving you too. The sad thing about it, many of us rarely seek the attention or necessary outlets to help us deal with our past, less known the fear and anxiety offset by it.

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