Gabrielle Union Talk of Multiple Miscarriages in Upcoming Book

Cover photo courtesy of Bing

Gabrielle Union is one of the most sought after actresses in Hollywood today and while it may look as if she has everything she ever wanted, having a child is one of the dreams on her list of accomplishments that seems to not be coming true. In her new book entitled “We’re Going to Need More Wine” a compilation of stories in which the “Being Mary Jane” actress share words of wisdom, humor and true stories of power, color gender, feminism and fame – she also becomes very candid about her personal life including the multiple miscarriages she’s had while married to husband and NBA star Dwayne Wade.

According to the Miami Herald, Union stated that she literally lost count as to how many miscarriages she actually had and would have to pull her medical records to give an exact number but thought it was somewhere between 8 or 9 times. The couple have been through many IVF treatments, all of which never worked. Each attempt left Union with questions:

“Did it take? Is the embryo normal or abnormal? Will I stay pregnant? We were always in some stage, waiting for some news, some sign that we can move into the next stage. Union stated.

The actress also admits how she never wanted children in the beginning but those feelings changed once she started taking care of Wade’s nephew and three children from previous relationships. According to Union, when she became a stepmom – there was no other place in which she wanted to be than with the kids.

You can find this story and others in Gabrielle’s book in which will be released Tomorrow October 17th. But why wait, you can pre-order it here on Amazon.

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Book cover courtesy of Bing

Some of the communication to this story was also taken from the Today Show in which you can view here.

 

Roshonda N. Blackmon – Creator of A Blog, A Magazine. It’s JustsumInspiration, Author, Speaker & Encourager

Let’s Live Well, Laugh Loud, Inspire Often & Love Hard!

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Sunday’s Thought: Following Peace Is Not Easy Peasy…

A little over a year ago I left a church. It was a church that I truly loved, it wasn’t big, it wasn’t too small but as Goldilocks said as she said ate, sat, slept and finagled her way into baby bear’s things “It was just right” – I mean I’ve been to other churches before but this one allowed me to really express myself and use the gifting that God gave me. I mean, while there’s no perfect church. I felt as if this one was the perfect fit for me. Well as you know anytime you get comfortable with someone or some-thing –  the enemy has to come in and play his dirty card hands to make sure “your perfect sunshine” turns into doom and rain and that is exactly what happened in this case.

All I will say is, there was something heard, a whole lot of wrong communication said, my emotions took over and went into overdrive and I became very sarcastic, distant and said a bunch of things I didn’t mean (I never said I was an angel). I ended up leaving that church as fast as I had become a part of it, I vowed that I would never step foot into that place again. While I didn’t share what happened with anyone outside of the people in whom were involved; the incident left me very bitter towards them and a silent grudge within my heart.

So what does the bible mean when in Hebrews 12:14 (NLT) when it says:

Work at living in peace with everyone, and work at living a holy life, for those who are not holy will not see the Lord.

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You see?, following peace is really about maintaining relationships with people, because as funny as life is, we never know whom we might need to reach out to in order to ask for a favor, we also never know whom may need us, so we must maintain a peaceful spirit and character as well, I mean think about it, if you say you’re a Christian (and most people have their different meanings as to what this means to them) and you’re supposed to be repping Christ, do you really think you should not have a good, peaceful, approachable attitude? I mean how would Jesus look if every time someone approached him with a question, he gave you the Ice Cube look…..

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Ice Cube pic courtesy of Bing

Not only would you not want to approach him but you’ll be afraid to ask him for anything. You should think about that the next time someone steps to you, are you giving them the Ice Cube look? (nothing against Ice Cube by any means =)

But following peace with all men is not an easy thing to do as they definitely wouldn’t care if you have peace concerning them. My mom used to tell me often, “Roshonda, it’s not what they do but what you do that matters.” And while I couldn’t understand what mama was saying at that time; as I became older, her words of wisdom became perfectly clear. When you’re representing a higher power it really does matter how you carry yourself. When we took the charge to be a Christian, we took an oath to not only be a follower but also a doer of his word, which means we have to represent him no matter what others do or don’t do.

Don’t get me wrong, this “following peace” way of handling things sometimes is not the most popular stance to take as I want to get my Ice Cube look on and break some necks and dare somebody to say something but I took an oath to follow Christ and with that, that means that I must follow peace. That also means that I have to apologize, even when I don’t want too – even if it wasn’t my fault. I have to forgive people, even when they laugh in my face and I know they talking about me behind my back. I have to do good to the people that just last week, threw me under the bus just to cover their tracks and I have to pray for the ones that I don’t want to pray for because I feel like they’re evil and don’t deserve God’s mercy, but then again, None of us do….

In prayer the other morning – God laid that church strongly on my heart and I reached out to the pastor….not expecting a response because it had been over a year, I imagined all the things they could have said to me, but what I got in return was love and a warm welcome. I was so elated and grateful that God put on my heart to go back and make amends and I was glad that I was still in the land of the living to do it. A lot of times we don’t want to admit when we’re wrong because we want to shift blame and refuse to humble ourselves, but if Jesus can forgive the people that done him wrong and still die for their sins inspite of their attitudes toward him, What about you? What about Me? Are we any different or above the law? NO, we’re not.

Listed below are a couple of tips to help you follow Peace more Easily…

 

Forgive and Move Forward, Literally

I can’t tell you how much time we lose trying to get people to respond to our plea for forgiveness. Listen, they’re not God and their opinion of whether your forgiveness was real or fake will not put you in heaven or hell. It’s not what they do or don’t do, it’s what you took the courage to do in spite of. The only person you should ever worry about is God himself, you know the one who actually created you? Yeah, him. Don’t waste no more time on people – whether they forgive you or not is their business and between their God, do what you were asked to do and Move On…

Expect Nothing In Return

Just because you had a come to Jesus moment with yourself doesn’t mean others have taken out the time to have that same conversation with him. God dealt with you about what you needed to do – don’t expect anything more from them. If they are true believers, they’ll come around otherwise again, do you and move boo.

 

So, What is a Christian Again?

Being a Christian means doing things as Christ would have and you have to ask yourself, would Christ hold a grudge, would he be upset at someone for years and not speak to them or bless them? Just as he wouldn’t, you shouldn’t either. Being a Christian means being Christlike even when we don’t want too.

Sometimes Peace Is Hard – Forgive yourself for your actions

Romans 12:18 (NIV) says, If it is possible as much as depends on you live peaceably with all men. When the Apostle Paul wrote that scripture he was referencing that the believers aim should be to live peaceably, but knew that sometimes peace would not be within our control. People will be people, while some will forgive – others will not but you’re not responsible for their actions and can’t help the feelings that they may have toward you, just know that God forgives you and once you’ve forgiven yourself? Feel free to move forward. When you’ve done your part, then you have to step back, let go and let God do his.

 

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Roshonda N. Blackmon – Creator of JustsumInspiration, Author, Speaker & Encourager

Let’s Live Well, Laugh Loud, Love Hard & Inspire Often!

There’s a Pumpkin In My Oatmeal!!

Let me just start off by saying, I would have never thought to put pumpkin in my oatmeal but then again, I love trying new things so I can’t actually say I wouldn’t have thought of it, I  just would have never thought to pick up a can from the grocery store.

Who would have known that the great pumpkin, would not only be beneficial to your face – in which takes my mind back to an old Oprah Winfrey show episode in which she gave away some pumpkin face cream from bath and body works in her “favorite things giveaway” show. Needless to say, BBW sold out of the product once she made mention of it, which is not a surprise, because what Ms. O likes, everyone likes…

While BBW has not had that product since (I mean they have other pumpkin inspired scents, just not that particular one) I think people really sleep on how beneficial and wonderful pumpkin really is, I mean they serve all sorts of purposes and not just for trick or treating or to make our porches look great on the outside, but they’re also good for our insides (body) as well. Check this out:

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So, that’s why I wanted this month to be all about the pumpkin – because something that good needs to be eaten everyday. Speaking of which, you all would be so proud to know that this next recipe turned out exactly like I had hoped it would…my pumpkin oatmeal was not only on point but amazingly delicious.

I was soooo excited because I didn’t want to write another “failed recipe” post….this is a cause for celebration, so…..

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(Excuse me, while I do my happy dance….lol)

Yes, I was really excited because if you knew my cooking skills?, then you’ll understand my dance =) so if it worked for me, it’ll be a breeze for you. To make this very simple, yet wholesome recipe – below are the ingredients you’ll need.

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Simple Right? The Cranberries and Walnuts are optional

The Pumpkin Oatmeal recipes goes as follows:

1 cup quick-cooking rolled oats (I used half a cup – carb watch!)

3/4 cup of milk (I used almond but it’s your preference)

1/2 cup canned pumpkin puree

1/4 teaspoon pumpkin pie spice

1 teaspoon cinnamon sugar

Directions:

Mix together oats and milk in a bowl. Cook on high for 1 to 2 minutes in the microwave. Once completed, you can stir in more milk if needed to achieve the desired consistency you want and cook for another 30 sec. Stir in pumpkin puree, pumpkin pie spice and cinnamon sugar (I used regular cinnamon and two stevia packets). Heat again for about 1 min and VIOLA! your breakfast is done! Below are pics of my before and after.

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Before – Looks good Huh!
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After – Trust Me, It smells as good as it looks!

I added banana’s, walnuts, cranberries and drizzled it with a tablespoon of sugar-free maple syrup. When I tell you this breakfast had me full all day, it really did. I usually have to have a healthy snack prior to lunch but no snacks were needed that day.

I got this recipe from two sources in which you can see below:

5 Breakfast Boosters for Flawless Skin

All recipes – Pumpkin Oatmeal

I took a little something from each and just made it my own. So the next time you’re in the mood for something wholesome and yummy in the morning – this recipe is one that will not only fulfill your taste-buds but add a whole lot of goodness to your body as well.

To kick off the pumpkin festivities I thought I would do a giveaway – I love to receive things and I know you might too. I’m giving away a $25.00 gift card, here’s what you have to do and how to enter:

Follow @justsuminspiration2u on Instagram

Post a picture of you with one of the 5 recipes featured this month with the caption: “Pumpkins Up! @justsuminspiration2u is doing a giveaway! Enter for a chance to win at justsuminspiration.com.”

That’s It! That’s all you have to do – Remember, you have to make one of the recipes, follow me on Instagram, post your picture of you and the recipe of choice and include the italicized statement with your post. Good Luck!!

The Winner will be announced November 3, 2017 at 1:00pm on the Justsuminspiration blog, Facebook and Instagram pages. Winners will be selected randomly from the list of entries submitted.

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Roshonda N. Blackmon – Creator of JustsumInspiration, Author, Speaker & Encourager

Let’s Live Well, Laugh Loud, Love Hard & Inspire Often!

P.S. If you missed the blog post displaying all the yum we’re cooking up this month, click on the link below to catch up!

Pumpkin Spice & Everything Nice, It’s Time for the Great Pumpkin!

It’s Woman Wednesday! Hey Girlfriend, You’ve Got Mail, This Message is For You…

Women, are the most powerful beings to ever walk the earth. The bible say we’re the weaker vessel and to some that might mean “weak” in nature but actually it means she’s easy to cry when hurt, she’s vulnerable, loving, compassionate and while she puts up walls once she’s been hurt, she can easily let them down when she feels and/or recognizes love. While men are the earth, it’s the power of a woman that makes it go round. See how powerful and unique you are  woman of purpose? So why do you let others make you feel less than what you are?

As a woman sometimes I forget who I am and begin to question, what in the world God created me for. I sometimes allow others thoughts and criticism’s of me, shape the way I live my everyday life, I somehow allow their negativity to dictate who they feel I am and in the process of all that I become depressed; down-hearted and almost ready to sit on the sidelines of life as I watch everyone else play the game until I remember Proverbs 139:14 in which states:

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When I read that scripture of verse, I suddenly snap back into reality and begin to see myself as God see’s me and I begin to think; everything that God made was good and very good, so that means that I’m a product of his best good creation, sculpted from the best clay and shaped by the best creative hands creation ever knew and you know what?, that includes you too girl.

Girlfriend, you are a diamond – a cut above the rest. You can move mountains with just one look, you have the power to speak your mind and everyone under the sound of your voice – has to stop and listen to you. So why don’t you use your voice to speak those things that are NOT happening in your life as though they ARE, including who you are. Honey, you don’t need a man to tell you you’re beautiful and you don’t need to keep giving a man your body just because you want someone to love you. LOVE starts at home (with you). Your body is a temple and everybody and everything is not privileged to enter into it. Ever wonder why you keep attracting the same type of man? It’s because your type, your attitude, your perspective and your outlook on who you are hasn’t changed. There’s still something broken on the inside, something that’s hiding in the shadows and maybe it’s being covered up by the nice clothes, shoes, make-up and hairstyles but it’s there and it needs your attention. The potter (God) specializes in broken vessels, he’s the master of finding a home for lost pieces…pieces that we feel can never be put back together again. You can’t put them back together but God can. You’re so much more worthy than you think and so much more valuable than you realize, you’re a PRICELESS piece of gold that can never be sold. I want you to begin to count up how much you’re worth and then add tax to it. Because you really are WORTH it, and that’s not just for those L’Oreal commercials it’s for you too boo.

Remember, you are a woman of purpose and vision. Don’t let the enemy trip you up by making you think less of yourself, oh and by the way YOU ARE CAPABLE, if you weren’t God wouldn’t have given you the vision or dream to accomplish what he destined/ordained/created you to do. A friend of mine sent me the video above. I didn’t look at it when she first sent it to me (had some life happened moments going on..lol) but when I finally took a look at it, it blessed my soul so much – I had to share it with you.

If you’re in a place today of thinking less of yourself; less than what God made you to be then I ask that you look at the video above and declare today that you’re not only AWESOME but VALUABLE & WORTHY!!

Roshonda N. Blackmon – Creator of JustsumInspiration, Author, Speaker & Encourager

Let’s Live Well, Laugh Loud, Love Hard & Inspire Often!

Bride Brings Tears of Joy to her Grandma, Wearing her Gown from 1962

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Is the famous quote that many eager brides try to obtain for the most important and special day of their lives – marriage, and one brides garment clearly fit the bill of “something old and borrowed.”

For Jordyn Jensen-Cleverly‘s wedding day, her dress wasn’t something new as most brides dresses usually are, Cleverly, however wanted her something borrowed and old to come from someone she truly adored, her grandmother. 23yr old Jordyn decided to wear her grandmothers wedding gown down the aisle, the same one her grandmother wore when she married her sweetheart back in 1962. The dress had not been worn in 55 years until now.

Penny Jensen, Jordyn’s grandmother had no idea that her grand-daughter had chosen to revive the gown she wore many years ago until the bride’s “first look” photo shoot in which Jordyn and her photographer Kortney Peterson surprised Penny.

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Photo courtesy of Kourtney J. Photography & HuffPost

“I didn’t want her to see the dress for the first time walking down the aisle and just start sobbing and have all those memories come back to her,” Jordyn Jensen

In memories, Jordyn was referring to Penny’s own wedding and her husband, whom passed away before Jordyn was born. According to the HUFFPOST, Jordyn stated that she blacked out for a moment due to the emotional excitement of seeing her grandmother face as she wore her gown, the only words she remembered her grandmother saying was “Wow, Wow, Wow”. The photo shoot was quiet as everyone stood in silence and tears began to express the emotion of how everyone felt that beautiful day.

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Photo courtesy of Kourtney J. Photography & HuffPost

And as the tears flowed, so did the rain as the once clear skies began to open up in expression as well. Photographer Kortney Peterson stated that it was as if Jordyn’s grandfather, Penny’s late husband also sealed the day with his approval as well. Such a beautiful occasion. And when Penny was finally able to speak, her words to her granddaughter became the cherry that topped off the day as she whispered in her ear:

“I married my high school sweetheart in this dress and so will you.” – Penny Jensen

Roshonda N. Blackmon – Creator of A Blog, A Magazine. It’s JustsumInspiration, Author, Speaker & Encourager

Let’s Live Well, Laugh Loud, Love Hard & Inspire Often!