How To Remain “Positive” In A Negative Environment

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In Lieu of October – I thought I’d write about “Positivity” – did you know that October was Positive Attitude Month? Uh, Yeah – it really is….in which is something we should all have regardless of the month, correct?

But not so, sometimes it’s extremely hard to keep up a “positive” image and smile in the midst of chaos or adversity and it’s even harder to always try to search for that glimmer of light in the midst of so much darkness – but guess what! You really can…

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When you go into a dark room and cut on the light, it makes everything within that room visible. Light has a way of shining on the darkest situations and circumstances especially if someone is having a bad day or if things aren’t quite looking UP as we sometimes would hope or think. Darkness is allowed in some cases such as when nightfall comes, that’s a darkness that is a must because after the sun has done it’s days work and sets in the evening, darkness comes to take over its shift, to allow people to retire for the night and rest but that’s how our solar system works.

So, what about the light and darkness we hold on the inside of us? You see, we all carry a light bulb within us and no matter how our day may go or play out, we have a sure responsibility to handle that day appropriately. We have the ability to turn our light on or leave it dark; it’s a choice that can only be made by you, whether to let positive rule the day or allow negativity to destroy it.


I’ve been told that I’m a very positive person and have had people to come to me when they either want to smile, talk or need to be uplifted from a dreadful day. So I share the light that’s on the inside of me with them. But, sometimes after I’ve given out so much light, there comes a time when my light gets dim and even dark sometimes.

That’s one of the downfalls to being an encourager – you’re the one that people call when they need to be lifted or consoled or just want to vent. But when it’s your time, you hear crickets! I guess that’s just the way the cookie crumbles…..

However; Listed below are a couple of strategies that help me and maybe can help you too when your positive light suddenly stop working or begin to go dim.



Now, I don’t know your religious affiliation and that’s okay, but when people are mean or have said something to me or about me that’s untrue and has totally shifted my light from bright to dark – Prayer is the first step I take. It’s a meditation route that not only relaxes your mind but calms your spirit; it brings you back into focus and allows you to think before you speak and say something that will dim someone else’s light.



Another way to stay positive is by talking with someone else who has a positive mindset. I can’t tell you how many times, I’ve felt down in the dumps only to talk to someone to vent and they start talking about their negativity. Choose your circle of friends wisely, because if you don’t have anyone that is able to listen to you or be there when you need a re-charge, then you might need to regroup and think about your circle. You’re there for everyone else, make sure you have someone that can be there for you too.



I almost can’t tell you how dreadful it is to turn on the news and see negative things – It’s not only depressing but discouraging. Not to be naïve’ to the news or the things that are currently going on in the world today but there are times when you need a break. That’s when I turn on some positive tunes on the radio or pop in a CD and sing. Reading positive things and/or positive quotes are also re-chargers to having a positive day.



If you are a naturally positive person, don’t change who you are all because someone else chose to not turn their light on and have a bad day. Everyone is not going to be positive and smile like you do, but that shouldn’t stop you from being who you are when you change to accommodate a negative energy it makes you negative. People are People and everyone is definitely different – But don’t allow their difference to keep you from making a positive difference in your life and the world.

8iEbknAyTIt’s not easy sometimes to maintain a positive disposition in a negative world; but if you keep your focus and remain true to yourself, you will have a light that will continue to shine inside of you and just may serve as the source for helping to turn someone else’s on too.



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17 thoughts on “How To Remain “Positive” In A Negative Environment

  1. Praying/ meditation literally has saved my life! Being in a negative environment can be so draining especially if you have to deal with it on a daily basis. I’ve found that prayer grounds me and gives me the courage to keep pushing through hard times with a positive mindset & staying true to myself. Thank you for sharing :)x


    1. I like that Ash! Prayer does indeed WORK!! it keeps me sane girl, keeps me from….well, you know (acting ugly…wink =)

      Thanks for reading and sharing your comment. I appreciate that and you!! xoxo


      1. Hahaha same! I really underestimate the power of prayer before but now I can’t do without it. And it’s my pleasure, it’s a great read 🙌🏾💜


  2. The lightbulb analogy was very clever.
    Problem is people will take notice of the positive but choose to dwell in the negative. And it’s usually the people that dwell in the negative that are clueless to why the world is against them.
    Good job you provided excellent tips


    1. That is so true David; I think people just love negativity because the positive will cause them to change and who wants that, right?…lol. Thanks for reading and commenting! xoxo


  3. So true, Sis…Remaining positive amidst the constant negative news in our society is a difficult task. Sometimes I just step away from the negativity by shutting down social media and just watch back to back sitcom comedies on-demand TV. Getting back to back deep down belly laughter brightens my soul.

    I can tell you are a positive person. It shines through your writing. I sense that and saw it when I watched your video recently. Stay positive, Roshonda! The World needs more people like you. 💗


    1. Sis…..need I say TEAR ALERT!!! Haha! Yesssss, girl I gotta turn off that news and that negative stuff, sometimes I even back away from certain people. My spirit and mentality just can’t take it. I love a good belly laugh, it makes all things seem good again.

      Thanks for your comment – I really try to be, although it’s sticky sometimes – but it’s me! Thanks for seeing that and we haven’t even met, hope I live up to those expectations when we do (see how I’m speaking that into existence…lol) Love you girl!


  4. Love this Roshonda, especially don’t change your strips. It’s easy to do that when we do not get the response we are seeking from others. If people call for advice, we want them to take the advice etc. but that does not always happen…. and they keep calling 😃😃


    1. LOL! Exactly – they keep calling anyway…lol. Thanks Sis for reading, I appreciate that and always honored when you drop by. xoxo


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