Hey, Everyone! Okay so before you ask – No, I’m officially not back yet…lol. However, do you miss me? I definitely miss you which is why I had to stick my head through the window. I’m still on hiatus, there’s a lot of things going on right now; however, with it being a new month and all, I was thinking about a FB live that I did 2 months ago and thought I’d share it with you.
It’s entitled “Finish The Assignment!” I was talking to the Lord about some things and before I could finish stating my case, this is what he told me. I don’t know how many of you have “unfinished business” that you have to do – maybe it’s a book, maybe it’s starting your own business, maybe it’s following your passion or finally completing something that you’ve put off on the back burner.
Whatever it is, 6 months have flown by and time is waiting on NO ONE! What are you going to do with the last 6 months of the year? Think about it and determine to FINISH what you started!
I pray this little video is an encouragement to you to pick up whatever it is you put down and FINISH IT because Time is waiting on NO ONE!
Talk to ya Soon!
P.S. Please excuse my hair – I should’ve left it down, it was definitely an in-between appointments stage…lol lol lol. (Oh Well, You can’t look like Angela Bassett all the time…he he)
There’s a saying that says, “One Bad Apple, spoils it for
the Rest” and the older I’m getting, I’m finding that statement to be even the
more sadder by the minute, hour and day.
The World is a Cruel place.
Now I know what you may be thinking, “Okay, whose peed in my
cheerios” Well, it’s not about “Who” but “What” – While the world is cruel and
evil and sometimes (okay most times) unforgiving. There are still quite a few
people in it, that are cool, personable and have a way of turning any blue day
into a shiny one, just by their personality alone. I happen to be one of those
Recently, I put a couple of things online to sell. I posted these items across the yard sale boards and I tell you, I have never, ever in my life received so many responses. I mean, I couldn’t finish answering one question before I could answer another one. It became SOOO overwhelming, I began telling people that certain items had sold – just to calm down my inbox. It was then that I understood why celebrities have designated people either checking their emails or handling their social media handles. I guess you can say that experience was my 15 min of fame as I surely thought I had become one, OVERNIGHT!!
I was successful in getting certain things sold but after a couple of failed promised deals gone bad – I decided to go down the list to other people interested. What I noticed is that although I had stated in my post that there would be “NO DELIVERIES” I had quite a few people whom opted that I meet them in a public place, a common area where a lot of people are. I did this for one person but when it came to the other person wanting me to do the same thing, I felt a little disheartened.
They were interested in an item I had but clearly stated
that their circumstances would keep them from meeting me as they don’t do anything
or go anywhere, especially to someone’s house without their spouse tagging
along. They went on to mention that if they did meet me without their better
half, it would have to be at a police station and because their spouse would be
unavailable. They asked to be passed over for the items and that I move on to
the next person.
In that moment, I felt some type of way, I felt dehumanized – if that makes sense. I suddenly thought – the world is a cruel place indeed; it’s been crippled by so much FEAR.
Thinking about the response from that individual suddenly made me cry. I admit, sometimes I can be a very emotional person, depending on the situation and especially during a good chick flick; pass the tissues because this girl will be crying. I mean, that’s just me.
Now, I know my actions to that situation doesn’t make a lick
of sense to you and if I can be honest, it really didn’t to me either, like “Why
was I crying??” I felt sad because of ALL the negativity, scams, killings and
so forth in the world, nobody can be trusted!! The first thing I thought was, “I
wouldn’t hurt anyone” I remember crying one day because I’d accidently run over
a dog, who came bustling out in the road from nowhere it seems.
I believe I cried too because I KNOW what type of person I
am, but just because I KNOW, doesn’t mean that someone else does and you can’t
be too careful these days, not even a little bit. People that speak nicely on
the phone or appear nice, can easily turn out to be a terror in disguise, the
only thing they need or seem to look for is an open heart to let them in and
the next thing you know, your world, is turned upside-down. “Can’t people just
be Good??, I mean, can we just have Good people, who want to do GOOD things and
NOT bring hurt or harm to anyone? Can’t we just have GOOD PEOPLE? Are there NOT
enough good people in the world??
While I was having an emotional moment of silence to myself. There was a little voice on the inside of me that said, “You Keep Being Good, no matter what, just keep being YOU!” It’s amazing how something so small can change our mindset about life and question who we really are.
I said all of that to say, Yes, while the world seems to be going to HELL in a hand-basket. There’s still some good and good people left in it. There are still organizations, companies and non-profits whom are changing the world – even if just for one person.
You can’t make people see the good in you, especially over the phone or thru a message board…lol, and please don’t try to make them. All you can do is just BE YOU. If you’re good, continue being good and don’t let anyone dull your shine, no matter how NEGATIVE the world may continue to get.
Do not be overcome by evil but overcome evil with good. Romans 12:21 (NIV)
So, I’m going to start this post off by saying “I dislike me sometimes” – ever had that feeling where you get totally FED UP! with your own self?? As much as I would love to be the angel and say I’m TOTALLY – PERFECT!!! HAHA – TOTALLY NOTTTTT! I’m really, honestly, NOT!
I mean, sometimes I can dish it out and serve it up really nice on a glorious gold platter for everyone else, but when it comes to me following my own, let’s say….advice. I don’t always do it and that’s for good reason – most of the time, well let’s say 65% of the time – I’m fearful, prideful and afraid of how I’d look if I actually did it. The other 35% is me actually doing it.
Okay, so I know you’re probably saying “What the Heck is she talking about??” Glad you asked! So, I have a hard time – giving people compliments. I’m going to explain, hold on…because I can see you looking like, What???
You see?, If I see a lady and she’s dressed up really nice. I’ll say in my head, oh wow that’s a beautiful dress, earrings or I love her hair or that perfume smells good. I say all these things in my head and my head thinks it’s saying these things aloud but in all actuality it’s just me in my own head space. FEEL ME???
I hold those good vibes in because I’m afraid of the look I’ll get when I actually say it. I mean, in reality I’m a very outgoing person – I have an outgoing personality and I can talk to just about anyone but, for some reason I have a hard time giving people compliments – oh course, you’d understand why I wouldn’t say these things to a man. Although, there have been some men that I did want to compliment and say, hey – you look good today or I like that tie, those jeans, that shirt or you have a nice smile – especially if he’s wearing some good smelling cologne.
However, I regress from doing that unless I truly know the person – otherwise, I just look, smile and keep it moving and have that conversation in my head space only. I don’t want to seem disrespectful OR make it seem like I’m trying to make a pass at them andddd ok, I just get all weird about the situation. To make a very long scenario on both accounts very short – what I’m really trying to say is:
Why don’t we give compliments to others?”
Is this something that you have issues with doing?
Men?, If you’re reading this article – do you find it comfortable or weird complimenting the opposite sex??
Women?, do you find it uncomfortable complimenting the opposite sex?
I’m not saying that I don’t do it because I do – I just feel as though I should do it more often than I should. I say that because you never know what’s going on in a person’s head space or how they’re feeling. That woman that we fail to say “How nice she looks in that dress or how the color of it compliments her skin tone” may be just the thing she needs to hear, because maybe that morning when she put it on – she had self-doubt or some other negative feelings going on about it and you saying something nice, just may be the boost she needed to hear to let her know that she made the right clothing choice that morning. You know what I mean??
One day, while I was in Wal-Mart – which happens to be my favorite store in the whole wide world (And No, they are not sponsoring me…lol, I wish!!) As I was shopping in the produce section, I just happened to look up and seen this older woman. She had the most beautiful head of gray hair on her head and the style that it was in was just as beautiful. As I passed by her, I got this urge (like a very STRONG one) to tell her how nice her hair looked, okay – so in my head space I had already told her but then my brain kicked in and said “Girl, Really??” no you didn’t!!
I walked pass her and was trying to go down the other aisle but something kept pushing me to tell her how great her hair looked. So you know how we do – I walked over beside her and pretended like I was interested in some soy beans…(LOL)….my arms were sweaty, my heart was racing and then….finally…..
Listen below to hear the rest, haha – you know I got to make it interesting. So, did I tell her? or did I let fear take over and leave….take a listen & check it out!
It only takes one smile to offer welcome….and blessed be the person who will share it. It only takes one moment to be helpful….and blessed be the person who will spare it. It only takes one joy to lift a spirit….and blessed be the person who will give it. It only takes one life to make a difference….and blessed be the person who will live it.
I was so honored and glad to be apart of a vendor event last weekend. Below is the table I had set up for it. Was super excited to make a couple of connections and talk briefly about bullying and how the message behind the book “Billy Wolf & The Kids of Heavenly Hills Elementary”impacted my own life and the reasoning for me writing it.
If you would like your very own copy, You can purchase it at one of the major retailers below. And please, when you do purchase – don’t forget to leave a review, it’s very much appreciated!
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I was sitting, trying to figure out what to write for the month and I was like – let me see what holiday is coming up for October and BA-WOW!!! (That’s a made up word..lol) I was so shocked?? Like, just to name a few –
Spinach Lovers Month (Who Knew??)
Wishbones for Pets
Positive Attitude Month
National Ergonomics Month
National Cookbook Month
Eat Better, Eat Together Month
Class Reunion Month (Seriously??)
National, I’m Just Me Because Month (Yes, this is true!)
And of course, there are tons more – sooooo, if you’re stumped for something to write up this month – I’m sure you’ll find something interesting in Octobers month of oohs, ahh’s and oh really??? observances. You can thank me later…wink.
So, in going through the list – I found a couple of things that stuck out to me that I would like to talk about over the next couple of Thursdays (can you guess what they might be??) I actually have two for sure – the third one, I just may surprise you – it’ll be a surprise for me too. Last year this time, I took a stab at cooking – yes – I sure did!! It was a long shot but it was October and I had pumpkin fever, so heyyy….I got into the mood…
Enjoy reading up on October’s National month of – I forgot to mention that I like how they have the topics highlighted, because it gives you an idea of where the “national or month of” originated from – In which you should take a look at National I’m Just Me Because Month – the meaning behind it, was very special.
See Ya Around…
“Look Up, Look Around and Look Within, Because there really is positivity in EVERYthing” – By Yours Truly
And now for your weekly Announcements!
I appreciate everyone who’s purchased my new and first faith-based children’s book “Billy Wolf & The Kids of Heavenly Hills Elementary” – It’s a book concerning bullying and hopefully it will inspire our kids as well as adults to speak up and take action. You can listen to my first interview podcast here.
Here’s another review from an author/publisher in the U.K.
“I was captivated from the very first sentence of the book all the way to the very end. I was eager to see where the story was going. As I continued reading, I thought about my 12 year old daughter also reading and enjoying the book. Therefore, I cannot imagine a child of elementary school age who wouldn’t love reading the book too. The moral behind the story is really how children should and shouldn’t handle such serious issue – one which drastically affects lives. I love how the quietest and most unassuming child turned out to be the hero of the story – highlighting that two wrongs DO NOT make a right! What I really loved is the spin on the story from a faith-based perspective. It is a very well written book which I thoroughly enjoyed as it was very easy to read and understand. I look forward to reading more books like this by the author, Roshonda”.
The photo above and below courtesy of bing/love-wealth-success
I thought I’d end September off with a little story, this isn’t just any story – it just happens to be one of my favorite ones. In speaking with a good friend last week, I shared this story with them and thought “Hey!, why don’t I post this” and here it is. Just a little background on me, because I don’t just want to slap a story in your face that’s seemingly coming out of the blue…HA!!