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So one might would deem me as being an around the way girl, if I told them how many times I have gone around and around and around….with relationships, these relationships with men have been a roller-coaster to say the least. In the process of me trying to FIND the right man I went through some doozies, I could say other names but I’m a Christian and it wouldn’t be allowed to come from my lips. During that period of time I noticed that I was in an ON again, OFF again relationship with God in which I prayed a lot…..got in a relationship…..prayed less and still……..got in another relationship, things were not looking good, If I had only WAITED on God, half of my life experiences would be obsolete; if only life was a big eraser, oh the things I would erase. But I’m so glad that I had those experiences as it has allowed those trials to become my Triumphs in getting to know me better, what I was really desiring in a man and most of all to gain a closer walk and/or relationship with Christ.
Those experiences have given me the unique opportunity to talk to you. I wrote this as a play and even performed it in church some years ago. Yes, the story you are about to read is a true story of my dating experiences (characters changed) through the years, so whether you’re in an active relationship at the moment, Married, Divorced, Single – Single and a Virgin waiting for marriage or have been around the dating way like I have, hopefully there will be something within these pages that will minister to you to either give you hope to move on from a broken relationship or how to WAIT on God for the perfect relationship that he has for you (notice I said PERFECT) there’s no such thing as the perfect man, but the man that God has for you will be perfect for your situation, your lifestyle and your relationship with God – which won’t hinder it but help it.
Be Blessed & Keep WAITING! I know it’s been a long time, but trust me it’s worth the wait.
HELP! HELP! HELP!
I am so good when it comes to making sure I step up in the corporate world called “my career” I want nothing but the best job, the best pay, and flexible hours and I won’t take down to nothing less. I am such the goal-oriented woman whom accomplishes both short and long-term goals set for my life in record time. I am a good giver to my young brothers and sisters in need and I am a great counselor at giving others good sound advice for their dating relationships and their lives. I strive to encourage them to make good healthy productive decisions that will keep them moving forward and not backward. So tell me? Why am I clueless when it comes to dating and the relationships I choose? I just keep getting into problem after problem, It all started when I went on a date last week with a guy named Robert, whom I met through my best friend Stephanie I mean she knows me pretty good, so I trusted she knew what I wanted in a man. She said he looked good, so she gave him my number. He called me, “he sounded good, I mean really good on the phone” I got all happy, but silly at the same time, because he asked me could I meet him at his house, we would leave from there. Hesitantly I said okay…but my instincts were shouting “Wrong Move.”
It’s been 6 months since I’ve been out on a date, I called myself taking a breather to get to know me and what I really wanted out of a relationship, so thinking I had gotten myself truly together I finally decided to give the dating scene another go round.
So today I got my hair, nails and toes done “yes my toes”. I wanted to be perfect for this date; I went the whole nine yards. When I got to his house he came out wearing this dirty white wife-beater shirt, some old, looked to big for him baggy pants and some timber’s not timberland’s because these shoes looked like they had gone out of style with the polyester pants era. He also looked like he had not had a hair cut in 2 years I imagined, and then had the nerve to have a comb sticking out of it. I stood there in amazement because I looked like beauty and he was definitely the beast. And if his attire didn’t take the cake; come to find out he doesn’t have a car; my car was going to be our source of transportation for the night. Now that was strike number two; and I should’ve left then, But no, I was lonely, desperate, and hoping that maybe something good would come out of this nice evening, despite his current situation.
So we took my ride, and here I was thinking we’re going to go somewhere nice and elegant like Justin’s, Olive Garden, Red Lobster or someplace like that, especially since I spent all day beautifying myself. “So where are we going.” I asked. “Oh I thought we’d go to McDonalds.” say he’s kind of short of change, by this time I was getting short of patience, then had the nerve to tell me to “order something cheap, “hard times ya know.” I was thinking to myself well just how hard have times gotten, I mean isn’t minimum wage $7.25 an hour? I was devastated and upset at myself for continuing this date and my friend for setting me up with him.
Come to find out as our minimal conversation progressed, that prospective job at the Law Firm ended up being a job beside the law firm collecting cans and raffling tickets, and that 2008 Yukon he didn’t have ended up being a banged up 1964 Nova that was just impounded last week. Telling me what he used to be and what he used to have and how he bought this home and car (might I add) for the last girl he was with. I mean what; I guess good times just stopped when you got to me huh.
Can you picture me sitting up in McDonald’s sporting a $200.00 dress with some Baby Phat Carmen 03 pumps and an $85.00 hairdo? People looking at me like I had a problem, and I did, a whole lot of problems.
So when I finished my Apple pie and “small” orange pop, I hurried up and took him home! I couldn’t bear another moment of his depressing scenario. All at the same time I was thinking to myself “Lord if you get me out of this one, I promise I will WAIT! On you.”
But I didn’t wait……………Big Mistake.
The following week I met a guy named Steven, No I did not meet him through my friend Stephanie after that ordeal with Robert I decided to leave her alone. So I thought I would try and hook myself up with someone after all who could know exactly what I want in a man than me right?….Wrong.
Well I just happened to be at the Gas Station pumping gas when I heard this deep voice behind me say…
“You sure look good doll.” He said.
I turned around and low and behold standing before me was the most handsome man I had ever seen; I mean Billy Dee Williams had nothing on him, now Denzel Washington well that’s another story. But anyway, he was tall and light skinned with a nice frame to him, very broad shoulders, with the most gorgeous brown eyes.
And unlike Robert, he did know how to dress. He had on this Sean John jacket with a white shirt underneath and he wore some nice Sean John jeans with some Karl Kani boots (these were the real things). He must have a little something, something.” I thought to myself, it’s about time.
“Hello, my name is Steven,” He said, smiling.
“My name’s Bernice.” I said,” blushing and smiling all while turning my face to the right where my dimple shows, right as we began to talk another car pulled up behind us blowing his horn because he now needed to use the gas pump. Oh I had totally forgotten about the gas. So as I walked inside to pay, he said…
“I’ll pay for the gas, do you mind?” taking out his wallet.
(“Now you know this is too good to be true.” I thought.)
Before I could say “Oh no I got it” I said, “Yes you may.” before I knew it. “Don’t sound desperate.” I kept telling myself. My mind was saying this but my actions were saying go right ahead.
We exchanged numbers and he asked if I could call him right away when I got home, certainly I said. As I watched him walk away I noticed that he did not look too bad from behind either… “Okay quit lusting.” I said to myself. But as much as I wanted to hurry home and call him, I just stood there because I really wanted to see what type of car he was driving or if he even had one.
To Be Continued….2/22/18
Roshonda N. Blackmon – Creator of A Blog, A Magazine. It’s JustsumInspiration, Author, Speaker & Encourager
Hey, please stay tuned for part 2 of: “Did He Just Stand Me Up?” Part 2 – COMING SUNDAY @ 12noon.
You wouldn’t believe what happened next….
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*Names, characters, businesses, places, events, locales, and incidents are fictitious and have been changed to protect the privacy of the individuals once involved.
16 thoughts on “I Will Wait, Till God Says “It’s Time!” The Play – Act 1”
Thanks for the post! Interesting read.
Aww! Thanks so much – the ups and downs of dating is complicated…lol. I appreciate you for reading.
I’m definitely waiting for Part 2… What HAPPPENEDDD!!! LOLOL
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Omg! Hahahaha. That first one, your girlfriend is obviously jealous of you and set you up big time. I would have left his butt at the door once I saw him and heard his low-class attitude. Can’t wait to read about the other one-he sounds a little too slick, but at least you got free gas (hope not at the price of A$$). Never an obligation dear. lol
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Yessssss!!!! Girl, she played a sista indeed…lol. Yes, he was something else…no, no, no, no booty girl…it didn’t get that far…lol, you’ll see tomorrow = ) Thanks for reading and commenting, I really, really appreciate it ❤️
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I mean, you’ll see Thursday…lol. I really want this week to fly by…can’t you tell :O
You are certainly enjoying writing! I get it.
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Lol lol lol = )
Oh, this was SUCH a good read! McDonald’s guy & you waiting to see if gas station guy had a car had me laughing out loud. One of the best lines: “Can you picture me sitting up in McDonald’s sporting a $200.00 dress with some Baby Phat Carmen 03 pumps and an $85.00 hairdo? People looking at me like I had a problem, and I did, a whole lot of problems.” 😂 Can’t wait for part 2! You definitely have a gift, Roshonda – you’re an amazing storyteller!
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Driftyness, my heart is filled with joy! you just don’t know what your comment did to me this morning…I am like in tears, literally. So many times and I’m sure you’ve been there, you always wonder if you’re good enough or if people will receive things the way you’re putting it out, my only goal is to make a difference, make people see things differently and if my mistakes, hurts, habits, hang-ups and funny tales…lol, can help someone – blogging is all worth it. Thank you so much for reading and girl, yes – that was a sad time….sitting up there all cute and he just…smh…lol lol. Part 2 gets even more interesting, trust me…lol. Thank you my friend for reading – your comment made my day 💕💕💕
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Thank you for your words of assurance to the rest of us ladies, it sure is tough out there, loneliness is very tough. I didn’t feel it so much in my twenties, but thirties seem tougher. I’m really into career and work as well, but lately, there is a part of the day where I just become so disoriented, lost and lonely. I cry for no reason, I feel like a part of me is broken or that it’s far away from me. I have a strong relationship with God and I do reach out to him for all the matters of my life and I know and trust that remedies and healing will arrive from him and I remind myself everyday that this is a good test, much better than alternatives like loss of loved ones or illness, and I must be pleased with my destiny. I just hope that the loneliness becomes filled and that I feel okay again. I think we all need to pray for each other, because it’s tough for everyone, no matter what their status is as you said. We might all be in slightly different situations, with different expectations and our lives might be developing at different paces, but we all experience pain in some form or another and understanding and supporting one another is a great way to go about it. So I pray that you find happiness, content, peace and loving companionship in your life, and everyone else too, all the ladies who are feeling a bit hopeless, a bit sad right now. Hang in there ladies.
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Wow! BollyReview, I loved your comment and your transparency with your own life. I totally get it, you do feel alone and wish for companionship – in which is where that feeling comes from, almost like something is missing and you can’t quite put your finger on it. Unlike you, I felt it in my twenties and thirties, now that I’ve reached the end of my thirties, I took a look back and was like – I really messed my thirties and twenties up! all because I wasn’t satisfied with whom I was and I feel you as well, God was there and I did talk with him but for me it was the need of having a natural touch and feeling…you see what I mean? However, God is good and has seen me through some really difficult break-ups, some in which I could have lost my life. I think when it comes to single ladies and I’m just learning this – we have to 1) Stick together and 2) Voice our opinion and be truly honest with God about our situation, I mean let it all out – If you’re sex crazed and you’re on an emotional roller coaster because of that feeling – tell God the truth about it, his word says that he’ll offer an escape for us and I can truly say, YES HE DOES! Until we become fully content with ourselves and gut out anything that could possibly be holding us back from either being in a healthy relationship or getting married – we will always be single and feeling lonely. I do believe companionship will come for me, but right now – I made a promise to God to not only be celibate but to give him this year….sort of like the Esther preparation. Thanks so much for reading and we’re going to be okay! Much Love =)