JustsumInspiration’s Guest Blogger Series presents: Hurting People, Hurt People. By Ashley Moss

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In the words of Joyce Meyers, “Hurting people – hurt people.” The fact of the matter is hurting people who hurt other people may not even realize that they’re hurting others, or do it purposefully. In an effort to protect themselves, they end up hurting others. In my experience, the idea of hurting people hurting others has proven to be a real thing in my life many times. I myself used to be so accustomed to heartache and pain that when new people tried to enter my life, I would push them away because I was afraid of being hurt and rejected.

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Fear of Rejection can cause hurt people to  hurt others or push them away.

God has worked in my life and heart and helped me get to the point where I can embrace new people in my life with open arms; without the fear of being afraid of getting hurt. My best friend of nearly ten years used to be the same way as well because of past experiences. The beginning of our friendship was rocky because every time our friendship would grow deeper on a personal level, she would pull and push me away for weeks; sometimes months. This period was frustrating, but eventually, we got through it and she learned to trust my loyalty to the friendship and my care for her. So, it shouldn’t have come as a surprise when God spoke to me about a year ago now, and told me to assist him in healing another person’s heart. However, it did. Though I’ve been in situations before where hurting people hurt others, it’s not easier around this time with the new friend that God told me to help.

Patience and understanding is the key. Yet, on days when I feel like giving up on encouraging this new friend and trying to show them the love of Christ so that they too can help someone else, I remember an inspirational passage. The inspirational passage is

“If you try to help others, they may push you away. If you try to love them, they may reject that love. Pray for, bless, and love them anyway.”

And that’s exactly what I plan to do! I didn’t give up on myself or my best friend, and I’m not giving up on my new friend either. Because I’m a risk-taker and was once a hurting person that hurt others unintentionally, I won’t EVER stop trying to help mend broken hearts and I WON’T ever stop encouraging others to be the best versions of themselves. God often uses people to bless others. He can use me for whatever and however He wants to for the rest of my life…because I’ll never stop encouraging others. It’s my gift to the world.

 

Ashley Moss

Ashley Moss is the author of “Lessons I’ve Learned: A collection of Inspirational and Love Poetry” which is a downloadable e-book. Ashley loves writing and is going to school now to obtain her master’s degree in creative writing. She currently runs a blog called “Pockets full of Love” in which she posts encouraging and thought-provoking messages the 15th of every month. For more information on Ashley and how to obtain her poetry e-book, you can visit her on Facebook, her blog “Pockets full of Love” or her “Ashley Moss Authors website here.

If you would like to be a part of the guest blogger series for JustsumInspiration, complete the contact form on this site or email justsuminspiration@gmail.com for more info.

JustsumInspiration’s Guest Blogger Series presents: Hurting People, Hurt People. By Ashley Moss

Published on by Roshonda B3 Comments

In the words of Joyce Meyers, “Hurting people – Hurt people.” The fact of the matter is hurting people who hurt other people may not even realize that they’re hurting others, or do it purposefully. In an effort to protect themselves, they end up hurting others. In my experience, the idea of hurting people hurting others has proven to be a real thing in my life many times. I myself used to be so accustomed to heartache and pain that when new people tried to enter my life, I would push them away because I was afraid of being hurt and rejected.

stop!
Fear of Rejection can cause hurt people to  hurt others or push them away.

God has worked in my life and heart, and helped me get to the point where I can embrace new people in my life with open arms; without the fear of being afraid of getting hurt. My best friend of nearly ten years used to be the same way as well because of past experiences. The beginning of our friendship was rocky, because every time our friendship would grow deeper on a personal level, she would pull and push me away for weeks; sometimes months. This period was frustrating, but eventually we got through it and she learned to trust my loyalty to the friendship and my care for her. So, it shouldn’t have come as a surprise when God spoke to me about a year ago now, and told me to assist him in healing another person’s heart. However, it did. Though I’ve been in situations before where hurting people hurt others, it’s not easier around this time with the new friend that God told me to help.

Patience and understanding is the key. Yet, on days when I feel like giving up on encouraging this new friend and trying to show them the love of Christ so that they too can help someone else, I remember an inspirational passage. The inspirational passage is

“If you try to help others, they may push you away. If you try to love them, they may reject that love. Pray for, bless, and love them anyway.”

And that’s exactly what I plan to do! I didn’t give up on myself or my best friend, and I’m not giving up on my new friend either. Because I’m a risk-taker and was once a hurting person that hurt others unintentionally, I won’t EVER stop trying to help mend broken hearts and I WON’T ever stop encouraging others to be the best versions of themselves. God often uses people to bless others. He can use me for whatever and however He wants to for the rest of my life…because I’ll never stop encouraging others. It’s my gift to the world.

 

Ashley Moss

Ashley Moss is the author of “Lessons I’ve Learned: A collection of Inspirational and Love Poetry” which is a downloadable e-book. Ashley loves writing and is going to school now to obtain her master’s degree in creative writing. She currently runs a blog called “Pockets full of Love” in which she posts encouraging and thought provoking messages the 15th of every month. For more information on Ashley and how to obtain her poetry e-book, you can visit her on Facebook, her blog “Pockets full of Love” or her “Ashley Moss Authors website here.

If you would like to be a part of the guest blogger series for JustsumInspiration, complete the contact form on this site or email justsuminspiration@gmail.com for more info.

Do you know where you’re Headed?

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Pass me not, O gentle Savior,
Hear my humble cry;
While on others Thou art calling,
Do not pass me by.

Savior, Savior,
Hear my humble cry,
While on others Thou art calling,
Do not pass me by.

You know a couple of years ago, I read this story called “The Divine Revelation of Hell” by Mary K. Baxter – the story was supposed to be based on true events in which Mrs. Baxter stated that God took her spirit to hell for 30 days, each night she encountered a different scenario and/or leg of Hell, she stated that God told her he wanted her to warn the world that Hell is not only real but a place in which he doesn’t wants anyone to go.

She began to talk about the different people that were down there; from fornicators, adulterers, whore-mongers, liars, cheaters, individuals whom refused to forgive and many, many more – There were countless people down there that had many opportunities and chances to get it right on earth, but failed at doing so – she said when Jesus would walk by them; they would scream and call out his name, only to be passed by as if they were never heard; YOU SEE? They had every opportunity to forgive, to do the right thing and make the right choices and now they’re in a place where forgiveness doesn’t matter, praying doesn’t matter, wishing and hoping doesn’t matter – nothing matters anymore once you pass through earth on the other side.

If life paused today, what do you think God would say about your life thus far. Would he be pleased? Would he be disappointed? Are you really living Life the way God wants you to now?

As a believer, I believe HELL is real and I also believe that there are many people down there already that wish they had another chance and/or opportunity to do things over again; but it’s too late because they can’t, they will never have the privilege of walking on this side again, If they could; they would be willing to trade places with you right now. At this very moment; you have the ability to shout out, call on the name of Jesus, pray, preach and cry until your eyes won’t bear any more tears while you’re here on earth and God will hear you, come to your aide and help you – Why? because of Grace and Mercy, in simpler terms because you’re ALIVE! But, Hell is the one place where no matter what you say or do, how much you cry and shout or pray, God won’t deliver you from because every attempt to get his attention there, would be in vain.

Where are you headed? What opportunities to serve Christ now are you dismissing, avoiding or not paying attention too.

  • Is God calling you to pray and you’re not 
  • Is he calling you to fast and you’re not.
  • Is he calling you to come out from among the people that mean you no good and keeping you attached to worldly goods and you’re not.

What is God calling you from or asking you to do that you’re not listening too or taking for granted; The song above says “Savior, Do not Pass me By” – there’s a lot of people in HELL today, singing that very song and it’s a shame because that’s exactly what God has done to them; passed them by because they once had a chance and BLEW IT!

But today, you are in a better position than they are, you can cry out to God and he will hear you, you can ask for forgiveness and be forgiven, you can be delivered now from every sickness and addiction, you can pray and be heard; you can fast and it mean something, you can sing and change people’s lives now. No matter what you do in this mortal body today – You can be SET FREE! on this side, whatever your struggle is: GOD IS ABLE TO DELIVER YOU FROM IT ALL NOW!

Serve God today, as the preacher says – while the blood is running warm in your veins, while you have the ability to choose. Is God knocking on the door of your heart today? If so, Let him in; Psalms 95:8 says, The day that you hear my voice, harden not your heart. Because if you should end up on the other side, His voice you will hear no more. You have an opportunity now, use it to your advantage because there are countless others whom wish they did.

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DADDY! I want it ALL ~

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This past Sunday before I journeyed off to take my usual trip to see my family, I decided to stop in Big Lots; I’m in the process of decorating my bedroom and decided to go with the “Fleur-de-lis a.k.a Paris” theme again, they have so many things out now that relates to Paris; so many of the small and big stores are now carrying things that display the beauty and history of the city. Although my fascination of the country began way before it’s very tragic events, It’s still a “places I must visit”  on my bucket list.

But there’s a specific picture I’m actually looking for, so I decided to stop in there and take a look around before the trip home; while in there, they indeed had quite a few things but didn’t necessarily have what I was looking for – instead of leaving right away, I decided to peruse the rest of the store and see what else they had. I ended up in the back of the store where they had all of this nice furniture, as I began to test out couches and chairs my eyes took notice of this young lady, whom was acting very anxious – I watched as she hurriedly went back and forward from this lady and man in which turned out to be her parents “I just talked to mom and dad” she began to say to the younger guy whom was with them. As I made my way over to look at the beds and dresser sets; her mom told the store clerk that they wanted to purchase this nicely finished 5-drawer dresser. “Sure” he said, if you all would go over to the service desk, I’ll be with you in a minute. He then made his way through these big doors which led to the back of the store.

As her mom, dad and the young guy made their way over to the desk; the young lady began to look over the purchase again – slightly rubbing her hand across the finished look of the dresser, “I love this whole set,” she stated; as she looked over to the matching bed, chest and nightstand to go with it. I love this – “Daddy, I want it All” she said, I want the whole set! Her dad looked at her with pleasure, as if he was just waiting on her to ask. As she walked away and traveled over to the service desk; I could imagine she got everything her heart desired and then some, all because she asked her daddy for it all.

The first thing I thought when I saw this exchange and how pleased her daddy looked; just to give her what she asked for was “I wish I had a daddy to do that for me”…she’s a blessed girl, I thought to myself – But then I realized, while I may not have had a “natural” daddy that could’ve given me everything my heart desired – I have a spiritual daddy whom loves, cherishes and cares for me; and he too is just waiting on me to say “Daddy, I want it All” because he delights in giving us the desires of our heart…….under one condition.i want it all

The bible says “Delight yourself in the LORD; And He will give you the desires of your heart.”

Psalms 37:4 (NASB) 

it also says:

“Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.

Matthew 7:7

As any parent will tell you, they are apt to give their children anything their hearts desire, while some parents give to their children even in their disobedience – 90% of parents are eager to do more for their children when their kids have proven or shown them that they can be responsible and complete necessary tasks without having to be told or chastised about doing them, this makes a parent feel good; knowing that the items or things they are purchasing for their children have been rightfully earned.

This is the same concept that our Daddy (God) takes with us, while the bible says God is a God of no respecter of person’s as he rains on the just (good) as well as the unjust (not so good) – He delights in his children seeking his face and doing the right things; parents dislike when their children use them just to get what they want only to later disrespect them when their asked to do something. Our Daddy (heavenly father) feels the same way. God doesn’t mind blessing us, but it really makes it so much easier when we’re obedient to him first, because as Chris Tomlin states he’s a “Good, Good Father”  (click link to listen)

I don’t know if the young lady in the store had to do anything good to get what she received and it really doesn’t matter, because my daddy too; is waiting to give me the desires of my heart. Because where I used to only “wish” for parents that had it good enough to give me everything I ever wanted, I learned to be content with my parents and their financial standing because I have a spiritual Father whom, If my ways are pleasing in his sight and I do exactly what he wants me do – I too can say “Daddy, I want It ALL!!” and just like that; If it’s something that won’t harm or hinder me – My daddy too, will look at me with such pleasure in his eyes and give me exactly what I ask for.

Be encouraged and know that from this day forward; while your natural parents may not have been able to give you everything you ever wanted, you have a heavenly father whose standing by in the wings with a pen and pad; ready to write up every request you have. Now that’s A GOOD DADDY!

daddy is a king

 

 

Sometimes they come back…

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Ever since I can remember, I’ve been the go-to girl for advice, encouragement, upliftment and secrets, which somehow get twisted into things I didn’t say or do; but anyway that’s another story. While I can vividly remember those instances very well, something else came to my attention that I was totally unaware of – I’m also the go back to girl, when relationships go sour for, let’s just say former boyfriends. It’s like they get an Epiphany or something and next thing I know; they’re searching me out for “A stroll down memory lane” and a “I wish we had just got together and made it work” – Well, it wouldn’t have worked because at that particular time; while my mind was captivated on them, their mind was caught up on someone else.

It’s amazing how people see things “AFTER” they have been through the ringer with someone else, Now they realize how sweet you were, Now they realize how good you were, Now they realize that you really were the good one, Now they realize “Hey, your looks weren’t that bad”, Now they realize how “Perfect” you really were for them – But that “NOW” is too late. In the past I would have thought this type of behavior or rhetoric was acceptable, I would have thought that maybe now this was my chance for us to be together after all these years and God somehow sent them back to me for us to start the life we should have had from the beginning and we can live happily ever after in a great neighborhood with a white picket fence…Aww! Life is so grand…….NOT!!!

Basically, what I was to them was the leftovers – While leftovers are good; just keep in mind that it’s good as far as FOOD  is concerned, not real life. You’re not some food in a plate that someone has had enough of, only to be put in the fridge and return to it within the next day or week. I have realized that I’m better than that and should not be required to be someone’s last resort, but their FIRST priority! and so should you; this is not only in relationships but also in life.

These incidences seem to happen to me quite often, however; it was a situation that happened a couple of days ago that really got me to thinking about my worth and how priceless and valuable I really am. I was in an on again, off again relationship with this guy a couple of years ago; I really liked him and of course what I’m “most popular” for and known to do most is “Rescue” my potentials out of disaster, I’m there to lend a helping hand, build them up where they are down and give them a new approach on life, I try to be the best person they’ve ever had in their life by focusing on their good points and not their bad points; in which is what went on with this relationship; Well, after giving them all of what I had to build them up; they’re self-esteem boosted and they left me to be with someone else and eventually got married…Wow! Talk about a slap in the face, there they were all boosted up and there I was “yet again” all worn out because I had nothing else to give after I gave them everything….hope….joy….encouragement and most of all LOVE.

A couple of years go by and I get a text out of the blue “Can you talk?” – Now mind you, I’ve ran into this individual on many occasions and while it was always refreshing to see them; I had moved on, picked up my bootstraps and built myself back up – But when I got the text, I was somewhat surprised. After calling them, I found out that they were separated; going through a divorce and wanted someone to talk too and hang out with; “I realized, you were a good person” they said, “I realized, you were good to me” & Blah, Blah, Blah; I’ve heard it all before. As they were engaging in the best times of “What we had Past tense” I began to visualize that leftover plate in the refrigerator that  no one remembered until they realized there was nothing else left to eat on, so they decided to settle with what was left over, which is really not what’s wanted; because if they had another option they would choose it, but because they don’t “They settle” for what they do have.

I continued to let them talk and when the conversation was over, they vowed to keep in touch because they wanted us to hang out. I instead told them that I didn’t think that would be a good idea and ended the conversation. In Life, I’ve come to the realization of this – If it was Gods intention for things to happen or even for you to be with someone, trust me; God is very intelligent and would have allowed it to happen in the time that it should have happened and in most cases it could have been of God, but when people fail to follow Gods instructions for their life which also includes being with the person God chose for you; that’s when things get complicated and we veer off the road to live the life that “we” created; not the life that God intended.

waiting-at-the-door-ramesh-k-nambiarThat’s how people get confused and have regrets of the past because they never took out time to follow the necessary instructions – that’s why “Sometimes They Come Back” happens because they are trying to go back to the place in which they should have been at all along – But at that time, it’s too late to make changes, too late to say what you should’da, could’da and would’da done – it’s too late to start over.

If someone is coming back into your life, after being MIA for a long time – Consult the Lord on your direction; because depending on where we are in life, their “comeback” may seem like it’s right on time or it’s of God; but usually when someone suddenly “reappears” back in your life it’s often when you’re at your happiest and when things have begun to look up for you; be careful because the enemy just may be bringing them back into your life as a distraction in which conjures up old feelings and past experiences; this interaction will only take you back to the past because that’s all they know & while those good times “of memories lost” may put a smile on your face for the moment – be wise, check their language and watch the signs as it just may be a stumbling block to keep you from moving forward to the individual whom is really meant to be with you. Remember, you’re not the leftovers in the fridge, the maid or the butler whose job is to pick up something that someone else left behind; you were created to be first choice.

In Life sometimes they may come back, but that doesn’t mean that you have to accept it; Take it from me, you’re better than that. Seek to be someone’s first Priority, Not their Last Resort & by all means don’t be afraid to say NO!

 

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Know your WORTH! Because it’s truly PRICELESS ~