No, you’re not seeing things – I didn’t make a mistake and hit the wrong keys on the keyboard, the title above is what was told to my son just a day ago, It hurt him so bad he broke down and cried – I had never seen my son in the way I seen him the other night, the pain that shot across his face is something that I will never forget and the way he cried – Is something that my heart will never forget either.
My son is a cool kid, very talented, smart and full of happiness – he loves the arts, drama, dancing, plays and he’s a master builder – he has a mind like no other, sometimes I wonder did I really birth him? He has his bad days too, where I have to tell him to do things over and over and over and over again, but what parent doesn’t. A child at my son’s school called him the title above all because he was twirling in the line, (Why were you twirling in the line, was my first response – because as smart as he is he’s known for getting misconduct letters sent home as well) but when he told me what the little boy said to him – MY HEART BROKE INTO MANY TINY PIECES.
What child says that to another child – How do you even know what that word means? It just goes to show that social media and television has taken over our children’s “free time” – because every show that you watch, even down to the cartoons are displaying these actions and carrying out those scenes right before our children’s eyes, It used to be back in the day when something came on the TV that was inappropriate for us kids to watch, our parents would make us turn our heads until the scene was over – even if the couple was kissing – I guess this was there way of making sure that our minds stayed as “pure” and “free” as possible of anything that would spark questions and/or steer us off the path that they had worked so hard to keep us on.
Now-a-days children might as well not watch TV at all – because there is more than just kissing going on, there are so many other things that are either unexplained, inappropriate or just down right not right at all. Times have definitely changed….
As a Christian mom, because my son was hurt – I wanted to put down Christendom and put on my boxing gloves, I seen myself going to the school and boxing every child that got in my way until I found the one that said those mean and cruel things to my son; oh I could see myself having a real showdown with him but because
“Greater is he that’s within me, than he that’s within the world” 1 John 4:4 – after I calmed my insides down (because I did not allow my son to see me break down in front of him, I did that much later – not a pretty sight). I actually see myself hugging the young man and becoming an advocate for other children whom may be experiencing the same thing.
When we send our kids to school, we don’t know the horror or the loneliness they feel due to the fact that they’re different, I now see why so many kids fight to fit in with the “IN CROWD” because they are afraid to be themselves due to the scrutiny that they may receive from fellow students, friends and classmates. What I did tell my son was that it didn’t matter what that young man said about him or even what he thought about him, what matters most is how God see you and how you view yourself.
It’s not easy trying to replace a positive with every negative thing that comes your way (In which is what I told my son to do) but I promise and I’m speaking from experience if you do it long enough it truly does work, I told my son that I can’t explain to him why kids are mean or why they say things to inflict pain and or hurt others, but I told him to keep his head up – continue being the individual that he is and don’t ever, I mean ever let anyone’s negativity trip him up from being the Awe-Some individual that he is.
When our children are hurt, we hurt & when they cry – we cry because they are of our flesh and bones, they are our little replicas of what we expect and wish the world would be like. They are our inspirations for getting up out of the bed every morning by the grace of God, just to provide for them and make sure that they have their needs (clothes, shoes, school supplies and etc.) and their wants (which are things that we try to get them that we feel we were neglected from having as a child) We want to give them the better part of life in general and if we really could do it – They would never suffer, they would never experience disappointment, they would never experience hurt and anxiety…..
They would never experience PAIN.
But in this world as sad as it may be, they will experience all of that. As a parent we have to show them how to fight back with positivity, through it all we have to show them “HOW TO LOVE BACK” on the individuals that hurt them, because if we really want to see true change – It starts with what we are feeding their spirits and what they in turn will turn around and feed to someone else…
My son came home the following day again with his head held high, laughing and dancing around as usual and getting ready for his first play (in which he has a speaking part) & I will be there to cheer him on now and will continue to be that cheerleader for him throughout whatever path he chooses in life; through the good and the bad.